{"id":828,"date":"2013-06-23T22:46:23","date_gmt":"2013-06-23T15:46:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/science-technology.vn\/?p=828"},"modified":"2013-06-23T22:46:23","modified_gmt":"2013-06-23T15:46:23","slug":"loi-khuyen-khac-cho-sinh-vien-dai-hoc","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/science-technology.vn\/?p=828","title":{"rendered":"L\u1eddi khuy\u00ean kh\u00e1c cho sinh vi\u00ean \u0111\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc"},"content":{"rendered":"

M\u1ed9t sinh vi\u00ean \u0111\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc n\u0103m th\u1ee9 nh\u1ea5t vi\u1ebft cho t\u00f4i: \u201cV\u00e0i n\u0103m tr\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u00e2y, anh c\u1ee7a em v\u00e0o \u0111\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc nh\u01b0ng khi anh \u1ea5y quay v\u1ec1, anh \u1ea5y \u0111\u00e3 thay \u0111\u1ed5i. Anh \u1ea5y kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n t\u1ed1t v\u00e0 l\u1ec5 ph\u00e9p n\u1eefa m\u00e0 th\u01b0\u1eddng b\u1ef1c t\u1ee9c v\u1edbi m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9. Anh \u1ea5y h\u1ecdc th\u00f3i quen x\u1ea5u nh\u01b0 u\u1ed1ng r\u01b0\u1ee3u v\u00e0 h\u00fat thu\u1ed1c v\u00e0 \u0111\u00f2i b\u1ed1 m\u1eb9 em mua cho anh \u1ea5y \u0111i\u1ec7n tho\u1ea1i di \u0111\u1ed9ng v\u00e0 laptop cho d\u00f9 gia \u0111\u00ecnh em ngh\u00e8o. Sau khi t\u1ed1t nghi\u1ec7p, anh \u1ea5y \u0111\u00e3 b\u1ecf \u0111i t\u00ecm vi\u1ec7c l\u00e0m \u1edf th\u00e0nh ph\u1ed1 kh\u00e1c, anh \u1ea5y ch\u01b0a bao gi\u1edd quay v\u1ec1 th\u0103m gia \u0111\u00ecnh em hay h\u1ed7 tr\u1ee3 cho gia \u0111\u00ecnh ch\u00fang em. N\u0103m nay em v\u00e0o \u0111\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc nh\u01b0ng em kh\u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 anh em. Th\u1ea7y s\u1ebd cho m\u1ed9t sinh vi\u00ean tr\u1ebb s\u1eafp v\u00e0o \u0111\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc l\u1eddi khuy\u00ean g\u00ec?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

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\u0110\u00e1p: Khi m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1edbn l\u00ean, h\u1ecd thay \u0111\u1ed5i. L\u00fac th\u00ec h\u1ecd thay \u0111\u1ed5i \u1edf nh\u00e0, l\u00fac th\u00ec h\u1ecd thay \u0111\u1ed5i \u1edf tr\u01b0\u1eddng. Thay \u0111\u1ed5i l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ph\u1ea7n c\u1ee7a tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh. M\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 thay \u0111\u1ed5i b\u1ecb \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng b\u1edfi c\u00e1c y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 b\u00ean ngo\u00e0i nh\u01b0 b\u1ea1n b\u00e8, phim \u1ea3nh, th\u1eddi th\u01b0\u1ee3ng, v.v. M\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 t\u1edbi t\u1eeb c\u00e1c y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 b\u00ean trong nh\u01b0 hi\u1ec3u bi\u1ebft, th\u00f4ng c\u1ea3m v\u00e0 tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m. M\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 thay \u0111\u1ed5i l\u00e0 t\u1ed1t v\u00e0 m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 th\u00ec kh\u00f4ng nh\u01b0ng ch\u00fang ta t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 \u0111\u1ec1u thay \u0111\u1ed5i. V\u00e0o \u0111\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t kinh nghi\u1ec7m \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t khi thanh ni\u00ean \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ph\u01a1i ra cho nhi\u1ec1u \u0111i\u1ec1u, c\u1ea3 t\u1ed1t l\u1eabn x\u1ea5u. \u0110i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 tu\u1ef3 \u1edf s\u1ef1 tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh c\u1ee7a t\u1eebng ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00e0 h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ch\u1ed1ng l\u1ea1i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng c\u00e1m d\u1ed7 hay ch\u1ecbu thua ch\u00fang. \u0110i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 tu\u1ef3 \u1edf ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1eb7t ra chi\u1ec1u h\u01b0\u1edbng v\u00e0 m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ea1t t\u1edbi hay tr\u00f4i n\u1ed5i theo d\u00f2ng ch\u1ea3y c\u1ee7a b\u1ea5t k\u00ec c\u00e1i g\u00ec t\u1edbi tr\u00ean \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. \u0110i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 tu\u1ef3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh h\u1ecdc c\u00e1i g\u00ec khi h\u1ecd kinh nghi\u1ec7m nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u m\u1edbi r\u1ed3i \u0111i\u1ec1u ch\u1ec9nh h\u00e0nh vi c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd t\u01b0\u01a1ng \u1ee9ng. \u0110i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 tu\u1ef3 \u1edf ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta ki\u1ec3m so\u00e1t s\u1ed1 m\u1ec7nh c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd hay \u0111\u1ec3 cho nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 b\u00ean ngo\u00e0i ki\u1ec3m so\u00e1t h\u1ecd.<\/p>\n

V\u00ec b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 \u00fd th\u1ee9c v\u1ec1 \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00e3 x\u1ea3y ra v\u1edbi anh c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n, t\u00f4i ngh\u0129 b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng gi\u1ed1ng anh \u1ea5y. B\u1ea1n d\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u01b0 ch\u0103m nom t\u1edbi b\u1ed1 m\u1eb9 b\u1ea1n v\u00e0 \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 r\u1ea5t qu\u00ed gi\u00e1. V\u1edbi t\u00f4i \u0111\u1ea1o l\u00e0m con l\u00e0 tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean m\u00e0 m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi h\u1ecdc khi h\u1ecd c\u00f2n tr\u1ebb. Ch\u1ec9 b\u1eb1ng vi\u1ec7c c\u00f3 tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m v\u1edbi gia \u0111\u00ecnh h\u1ecd m\u00e0 h\u1ecd m\u1edbi h\u1ecdc c\u00f3 tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m cho b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n h\u1ecd. Khi h\u1ecd c\u00f3 tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m v\u1edbi b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n h\u1ecd th\u00ec h\u1ecd s\u1ebd c\u00f3 tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m v\u1edbi x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ea5t n\u01b0\u1edbc c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. M\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 \u0111\u1ec1u b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u v\u1edbi n\u1ec1n t\u1ea3ng c\u1ee7a vi\u1ec7c c\u00f3 tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m v\u1edbi b\u1ed1 m\u1eb9 b\u1ea1n v\u00e0 \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u c\u1ee7a qu\u00e1 tr\u00ecnh tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh. T\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 vi\u1ebft nhi\u1ec1u b\u00e0i khuy\u00ean sinh vi\u00ean \u0111\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc v\u1ec1 ch\u1ecdn l\u0129nh v\u1ef1c h\u1ecdc t\u1eadp v\u00e0 \u0111\u1eb7t chi\u1ec1u h\u01b0\u1edbng ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p nh\u01b0ng v\u00ec b\u1ea1n h\u1ecfi, t\u00f4i c\u00f3 l\u1eddi khuy\u00ean kh\u00e1c v\u1ec1 vi\u1ec7c c\u00f3 tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m cho b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n b\u1ea1n.<\/p>\n

L\u00e0 sinh vi\u00ean n\u0103m th\u1ee9 nh\u1ea5t, b\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3i h\u1ecdc ch\u0103m s\u00f3c cho b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n b\u1ea1n. Ph\u1ea3i ch\u1eafc b\u1ea1n ng\u1ee7 v\u00e0 ngh\u1ec9 ng\u01a1i \u0111\u1ee7. B\u1ea1n c\u1ea7n m\u1ea1nh kho\u1ebb \u0111\u1ec3 th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng trong \u0111\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc v\u00e0 v\u1ec1 sau trong cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi. Nhi\u1ec1u sinh vi\u00ean \u0111\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc kh\u00f4ng ch\u00fa \u00fd t\u1edbi s\u1ee9c kho\u1ebb c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd v\u00e0 phung ph\u00ed nhi\u1ec1u th\u1eddi gian v\u00e0o th\u00f3i quen kh\u00f4ng m\u1ea1nh kho\u1ebb nh\u01b0 h\u00fat thu\u1ed1c, u\u1ed1ng r\u01b0\u1ee3u v\u00e0 th\u1eadm ch\u00ed d\u00f9ng ma tu\u00fd b\u1ea5t h\u1ee3p ph\u00e1p. V\u1edbi m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 th\u1ee9 “th\u1eddi th\u01b0\u1ee3ng” nh\u01b0ng h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft \u0111\u1ea7y \u0111\u1ee7 h\u1eadu qu\u1ea3 ch\u1eebng n\u00e0o c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f2n ch\u01b0a x\u1ea3y ra cho h\u1ecd. N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m v\u1edbi th\u00e2n th\u1ec3 ri\u00eang c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n th\u00ec ai s\u1ebd c\u00f3 tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m? Ch\u1ec9 b\u1eb1ng vi\u1ec7c duy tr\u00ec m\u1ea1nh kho\u1ebb th\u1ec3 ch\u1ea5t b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 nu\u00f4i d\u01b0\u1ee1ng cho linh h\u1ed3n c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. C\u00f3 linh h\u1ed3n m\u1ea1nh m\u1ebd s\u1ebd gi\u00fap b\u1ea1n v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua ch\u01b0\u1edbng ng\u1ea1i v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ea1t t\u1edbi m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n \u1edf tr\u01b0\u1eddng v\u00e0 m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p trong t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai. T\u00f4i th\u01b0\u1eddng khuy\u00ean c\u00e1c sinh vi\u00ean gi\u1eef th\u00f3i quen luy\u1ec7n t\u1eadp th\u1ec3 d\u1ee5c t\u1ed1t nh\u01b0 \u0111i b\u1ed9, b\u01a1i hay ch\u01a1i th\u1ec3 thao (b\u00f3ng b\u00e0n, ten n\u00edt, \u0111\u00e1 b\u00f3ng v.v.). B\u00ean c\u1ea1nh \u0111\u00f3, \u0111i\u1ec1u t\u1ed1t l\u00e0 n\u1ebfu h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 d\u00e0nh ch\u00fat th\u1eddi gian m\u1ed7i ng\u00e0y \u1edf ch\u1ed7 t\u0129nh m\u1ecbch \u0111\u1ec3 cho h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 h\u1ed9i t\u1ee5 t\u00e2m tr\u00ed h\u1ecd m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng b\u1ecb b\u1eadn t\u00e2m b\u1edfi nh\u1eefng ti\u1ebfng \u1ed3n kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft. Th\u01b0 vi\u1ec7n th\u01b0\u1eddng l\u00e0 ch\u1ed7 t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1ec3 h\u1ed9i t\u1ee5 v\u00e0 ngh\u1ec9 ng\u01a1i. \u0110i d\u1ea1o y\u00ean t\u0129nh trong v\u01b0\u1eddn s\u1ebd l\u00e0 tuy\u1ec7t v\u1eddi. Ch\u1ec9 b\u1eb1ng vi\u1ec7c c\u00f3 linh h\u1ed3n m\u1ea1nh m\u1ebd m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111au kh\u1ed5 hay s\u1ee3 h\u00e3i.<\/p>\n

Nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t ph\u1ea7n c\u1ee7a tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh, m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 sinh vi\u00ean th\u01b0\u1eddng so s\u00e1nh b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n h\u1ecd v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c, trong tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p \u0111\u00f3 h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh ki\u00eau ng\u1ea1o n\u1ebfu c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi k\u00e9m h\u01a1n b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n h\u1ecd hay tr\u1edf n\u00ean cay \u0111\u1eafng n\u1ebfu c\u00f3 ai \u0111\u00f3 gi\u1ecfi h\u01a1n. C\u00f3 nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft m\u00e0 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m b\u1eadn t\u00e2m linh h\u1ed3n b\u1ea1n. B\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3i h\u1ed9i t\u1ee5 v\u00e0o vi\u1ec7c t\u1eadn h\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh t\u1ef1u ri\u00eang c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n v\u00e0 gi\u1eef quan t\u00e2m trong ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p ri\u00eang c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. \u1ede \u0111\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd g\u1eb7p nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi. B\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u1ed1i x\u1eed v\u1edbi m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch k\u00ednh tr\u1ecdng, v\u00e0 h\u1ecdc l\u1eafng nghe h\u1ecd. L\u1eafng nghe l\u00e0 k\u0129 n\u0103ng m\u00e0 ph\u1ea7n l\u1edbn ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u1ebb kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3, \u0111i\u1ec1u t\u1ed1t l\u00e0 b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n k\u0129 n\u0103ng \u0111\u00f3 b\u00e2y gi\u1edd v\u00ec n\u00f3 s\u1ebd l\u00e0 m\u00f3n qu\u00e0 qu\u00ed b\u00e1u cho b\u1ea1n trong \u0111\u1eddi b\u1ea1n. L\u00f2ng t\u1ed1t \u0111i \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng d\u00e0i. Bi\u1ebfn t\u1eeb bi th\u00e0nh h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng \u0111i. Gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c v\u00e0 l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi d\u1ec5 th\u01b0\u01a1ng.<\/p>\n

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Another advice to college students<\/p>\n

A first year college student wrote to me: \u201cFew years ago, my brother went to college but when he came back, he changed. He was no longer kind and polite anymore but often angry at everything. He learned bad habit such as drinking and smoking and demanded my parents to buy him mobile phone and laptop even my family is poor. After graduated, he left for a job in another city, he never came back to visit my parents or support our family. This year I am going to college but I do not want to be like my brother. What advice would you give a young student who is going to college?\u201d<\/p>\n

Answer: When people grow up, they change. Sometime they change at home, sometime they change at school. Changes are part of maturity. Some changes are influenced by external factors such as friends, movies, fashions, etc. Some come from internal factors such as understanding, empathy and responsibility. Some changes are good and some are not but we all change. Go to college is a special experience where young people are exposed to many things, good and bad. It is up to the maturity of the person that they can resist some temptations or succumb to them. It is up to the person to set direction and career goals to achieve or floating with the flow of whatever comes their way. It is up to the person to determine what to learn when they experience new things then adjust their behavior accordingly. It is up to the person to control their destiny or let external things control them.<\/p>\n

Since you are conscious about what has happened to your brother, I think you will not be like him. You seem to care about your parents and that is something very precious. To me filial is the first responsibility that people learn when they are young. Only by being responsible to their family then they learn to be responsible for themselves. When they are responsible to themselves then they will be responsible to their society and their country. Everything starts with the fundamental of being responsible to your parents and that is the beginning of the maturity process. I have written several articles advising college students about selecting field of study and set career direction already but since you asked, I have another advice on being responsible to yourself.<\/p>\n

As a first year student, you must learn to take care of yourself. Make sure you get enough sleep and rest. You need to be healthy to succeed in college and later in life. Many college students do not pay attention to their health and waste a lot of time in unhealthy habit such as smoking, drinking or even using illegal drugs. To some it is a \u201cFashionable\u201d thing but they do not fully know the consequences until something happens to them. If you are not responsible to your own body then who will? Only by maintain your physical health then you can nurture your spirit. Having a strong spirit will help you to overcome obstacles and achieve your education goals in school and career goals in the future. I often advise students to keep good exercise habit such as walking, swimming or play sports (ping pong, badminton, soccer etc.). Besides that, it is good if they could spend some time each day in solitude so they can focus their mind without being bothered by other unnecessary noises. Library is usually a good place to focus and rest. A quiet walk in a garden would be excellent. Only by having strong spirit that you can overcome sudden distress or fears.<\/p>\n

As part of growing up, some students often compare themselves with others, in that case they may become vain if there are people who are less than themselves or bitter if there is someone who are better. These are unnecessary things that may bother your spirit. You must focus on enjoying your own achievement and keep interested in your own career. In college you will meet a lot of people. You must treat everyone with respect, and learn to listen to them. Listening is a skill that most young people do not have, it is good to start develop that skill now as it will be a precious gift for you in your life. Kindness goes a long ways. Turn compassion into action. Helping others and being amiable.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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