Trong v\u00e0i tu\u1ea7n qua, t\u00f4i nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nhi\u1ec1u emails t\u1eeb c\u00e1c b\u1eadc cha m\u1eb9 h\u1ecfi v\u1ec1 l\u1eddi khuy\u00ean li\u00ean quan t\u1edbi vi\u1ec7c \u0111i h\u1ecdc \u1edf c\u00e1c tr\u01b0\u1eddng c\u1ee7a M\u0129. M\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi mu\u1ed1n cho con c\u00e1i h\u1ecd theo h\u1ecdc \u1edf c\u00e1c \u0111\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc h\u00e0ng \u0111\u1ea7u (nh\u01b0, Harvard, Stanford, Yale, Princeton, MIT, Carnegie Mellon v\u00e0 Cornell, v.v.) V\u00ec t\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u1eebng email ri\u00eang, t\u00f4i mu\u1ed1n d\u00f9ng blog n\u00e0y \u0111\u1ec3 tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi cho m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 trong c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan t\u00e2m c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd.<\/p>\n
M\u1eb7c d\u1ea7u con b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 h\u1ecdc t\u1ed1t \u1edf trung h\u1ecdc, \u0111\u1ed7 k\u00ec thi v\u00e0o b\u1eaft bu\u1ed9c v\u1edbi \u0111i\u1ec3m cao, c\u00f3 k\u0129 n\u0103ng ti\u1ebfng Anh t\u1ed1t nh\u01b0ng h\u1ecdc t\u1ed1t \u1edf \u0111\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc, \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t \u1edf n\u01b0\u1edbc ngo\u00e0i, \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n ch\u1ec9 nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u h\u1ecd h\u1ecdc trong tr\u01b0\u1eddng trung h\u1ecdc. H\u1ecd ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c chu\u1ea9n b\u1ecb cho th\u00e1ch th\u1ee9c h\u1ecdc trong h\u1ec7 th\u1ed1ng gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c v\u00e0 m\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng kh\u00e1c c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 h\u1ecd tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh th\u1ebf n\u00e0o \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u1ecbu tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m v\u1ec1 h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd.<\/p>\n
Y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 th\u00e1ch th\u1ee9c nh\u1ea5t cho b\u1ea5t k\u00ec b\u1ed1 m\u1eb9 n\u00e0o l\u00e0 ch\u1ecdn “\u0111\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc \u0111\u00fang” cho con c\u00e1i h\u1ecd. C\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u ch\u1ecdn l\u1ef1a (nh\u01b0 tr\u01b0\u1eddng c\u00f4ng hay t\u01b0, \u0111\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc v\u00ec l\u1ee3i nhu\u1eadn hay phi l\u1ee3i nhu\u1eadn; truy\u1ec1n th\u1ed1ng hay tr\u1ef1c tuy\u1ebfn; l\u1edbn hay nh\u1ecf, v.v.) L\u1eddi khuy\u00ean c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i l\u00e0 c\u1ea3 b\u1ea1n v\u00e0 con b\u1ea1n c\u1ea7n nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u c\u1ea9n th\u1eadn nhi\u1ec1u \u0111\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc TR\u01af\u1edaC KHI xin v\u00e0o v\u00ec \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 s\u1ebd c\u1ea7n th\u1eddi gian v\u00e0 n\u1ed7 l\u1ef1c.<\/p>\n
M\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 b\u1ed1 m\u1eb9 mu\u1ed1n con c\u00e1i h\u1ecd v\u00e0o \u0111\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng t\u00ednh t\u1edbi t\u00ednh ch\u1ecdn l\u1ecdc d\u1eef d\u1ed9i trong qu\u00e1 tr\u00ecnh x\u00e9t tuy\u1ec3n. M\u1ed7i n\u0103m, h\u00e0ng tr\u0103m ngh\u00ecn sinh vi\u00ean xin v\u00e0o Havard, Yale, Stanford, Berkeley, Carnegie Mellon, hay MIT v\u00e0 ph\u1ea7n l\u1edbn \u0111\u01a1n xin \u0111\u00e3 b\u1ecb b\u00e1c b\u1ecf. T\u00f4i th\u01b0\u1eddng t\u1ef1 h\u1ecfi t\u1ea1i sao nhi\u1ec1u b\u1ed1 m\u1eb9 mu\u1ed1n con c\u00e1i h\u1ecd v\u00e0o nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc n\u1ed5i ti\u1ebfng n\u00e0y, khi bi\u1ebft r\u1eb1ng tr\u00ean 90 ph\u1ea7n tr\u0103m \u0111\u01a1n xin c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 b\u1ecb b\u00e1c b\u1ecf? Nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi tin r\u1eb1ng c\u00e1c tr\u01b0\u1eddng danh gi\u00e1 n\u00e0y s\u1ebd t\u1ea1o ra kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t l\u1edbn trong ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p c\u1ee7a con c\u00e1i h\u1ecd. S\u1ef1 ki\u1ec7n l\u00e0 ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u1ed1t nghi\u1ec7p \u0111\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc tu\u1ef3 thu\u1ed9c v\u00e0o tri th\u1ee9c v\u00e0 k\u0129 n\u0103ng c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd v\u00e0 h\u1ecd v\u1eadn h\u00e0nh t\u1ed1t th\u1ebf n\u00e0o trong vi\u1ec7c l\u00e0m c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd, KH\u00d4NG ph\u1ee5 thu\u1ed9c v\u00e0o b\u1eb1ng c\u1ea5p t\u1eeb tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ecd tham d\u1ef1.<\/p>\n
V\u00e0i n\u0103m tr\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u00e2y, khi d\u1ea1y \u1edf ch\u00e2u \u00c1, t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 g\u1eb7p m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ph\u1ee5 huynh t\u1ef1 h\u00e0o r\u1eb1ng con c\u00e1i h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 tham d\u1ef1 c\u00e1c tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u00e0ng \u0111\u1ea7u n\u00e0y. H\u1ecd b\u1ea3o t\u00f4i: \u201cCon trai t\u00f4i h\u1ecdc \u1edf Harvard.\u201d Hay \u201cCon g\u00e1i t\u00f4i \u0111ang h\u1ecdc \u1edf Stanford.\u201d\u00a0T\u00f4i hi\u1ec3u v\u1ec1 “t\u1ef1 h\u00e0o” c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd v\u1ec1 vi\u1ec7c c\u00f3 con h\u1ecdc \u1edf nh\u1eefng tr\u01b0\u1eddng n\u00e0y. Nh\u01b0ng l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t gi\u00e1o s\u01b0 trong m\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng tr\u01b0\u1eddng n\u00e0y, t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 th\u1ea5y nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 m\u00e0 con c\u00e1i h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng n\u00f3i cho h\u1ecd. Ch\u1eb3ng h\u1ea1n, bao nhi\u00eau ph\u1ee5 huynh bi\u1ebft li\u1ec7u con h\u1ecd \u0111ang ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n hay \u0111ang v\u1eadt l\u1ed9n \u1edf nh\u1eefng tr\u01b0\u1eddng n\u00e0y? Hay h\u1ecd \u0111ang ph\u1ea3i ch\u1ecbu \u0111\u1ef1ng bao nhi\u00eau c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng trong m\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng c\u1ea1nh tranh d\u1eef d\u1ed9i? Kh\u00f4ng ai ho\u00e0i nghi b\u1eb1ng c\u1ea5p danh gi\u00e1 t\u1eeb c\u00e1c \u0111\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc n\u00e0y nh\u01b0ng c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u s\u1ee9c \u00e9p \u1edf \u0111\u00f3 n\u1eefa. \u0110\u00f4i khi, ch\u01b0\u01a1ng tr\u00ecnh \u0111\u00e0o t\u1ea1o n\u1eb7ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tr\u00e0n ng\u1eadp sinh vi\u00ean n\u1ebfu ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c chu\u1ea9n b\u1ecb. Quan \u0111i\u1ec3m c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i l\u00e0 c\u00e1c \u0111\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc h\u00e0ng \u0111\u1ea7u KH\u00d4NG d\u00e0nh cho m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi. \u0110\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eadn v\u00e0o l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t chuy\u1ec7n, nh\u01b0ng h\u1ecdc t\u1ed1t l\u00e0 chuy\u1ec7n kh\u00e1c. T\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 th\u1ea5y nhi\u1ec1u sinh vi\u00ean v\u1eadt l\u1ed9n, th\u1ea5t b\u1ea1i v\u00e0 cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng b\u1ecb \u0111u\u1ed5i v\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ph\u00e1 hu\u1ef7 t\u00e2m l\u00ed c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. Ki\u1ec3u th\u1ea5t b\u1ea1i \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111eo b\u00e1m dai d\u1eb3ng m\u1ed9t th\u1eddi gian d\u00e0i v\u00e0 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ch\u1eefa l\u00e0nh.<\/p>\n
L\u1eddi khuy\u00ean c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i l\u00e0 c\u1ea3 b\u1ed1 m\u1eb9 v\u00e0 con c\u00e1i h\u1ecd n\u00ean th\u1ea3o lu\u1eadn k\u0129 l\u01b0\u1ee1ng v\u1ec1 xin v\u00e0o tr\u01b0\u1eddng n\u00e0o. \u0110i\u1ec1u c\u0169ng quan tr\u1ecdng l\u00e0 c\u00f3 b\u1ea3n k\u1ebf ho\u1ea1ch ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p s\u1eb5n s\u00e0ng \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1eb7t chi\u1ec1u h\u01b0\u1edbng cho vi\u1ec7c h\u1ecdc t\u1eadp, \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t n\u1ebfu con c\u00f2n ch\u01b0a \u0111\u1ee7 tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh hay v\u1eabn c\u00f2n kh\u00f4ng ch\u1eafc v\u1ec1 m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. H\u1ecdc t\u1eadp \u1edf \u0111\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc n\u01b0\u1edbc ngo\u00e0i l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ea7u t\u01b0 ch\u00ednh d\u01b0\u1edbi d\u1ea1ng th\u1eddi gian, ti\u1ec1n b\u1ea1c v\u00e0 n\u1ed7 l\u1ef1c v\u00e0 b\u1ed1 m\u1eb9 c\u00f9ng con c\u00e1i ph\u1ea3i nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u c\u1ea9n th\u1eadn b\u1eb1ng vi\u1ec7c nh\u00ecn v\u00e0o m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 ch\u00ednh nh\u01b0 s\u1ef1 kh\u1eaft khe c\u1ee7a ch\u01b0\u01a1ng tr\u00ecnh \u0111\u00e0o t\u1ea1o (nh\u01b0 sinh vi\u00ean ph\u1ea3i d\u00e0nh bao nhi\u00eau th\u1eddi gian \u0111\u1ec3 h\u1ecdc m\u1ed7i tu\u1ea7n? Sinh vi\u00ean \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c mong \u0111\u1ee3i \u0111\u1ecdc bao nhi\u00eau? Ki\u1ec3u ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u00e1p \u0111\u00e0o t\u1ea1o n\u00e0o \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c d\u00f9ng nh\u01b0 \u0111\u1ecdc b\u00e0i gi\u1ea3ng truy\u1ec1n th\u1ed1ng hay h\u1ecdc ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ed9ng n\u01a1i sinh vi\u00ean h\u1ecdc theo nh\u00f3m? T\u1ec9 l\u1ec7 gi\u1eefa c\u00e1c th\u1ea7y trong khoa v\u00e0 sinh vi\u00ean l\u00e0 g\u00ec? S\u1ed1 vi\u1ec7c s\u1eafp \u0111\u1eb7t c\u1ee7a sinh vi\u00ean l\u00e0 g\u00ec? Bao nhi\u00eau \u0111\u01a1n v\u1ecb \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u1ea7n cho t\u1ed1t nghi\u1ec7p trong l\u0129nh v\u1ef1c h\u1ecdc t\u1eadp? Bao nhi\u00eau sinh vi\u00ean n\u01b0\u1edbc ngo\u00e0i \u0111ang h\u1ecdc t\u1ea1i tr\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u00f3, v.v.)<\/p>\n
L\u1eddi khuy\u00ean c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i cho c\u00e1c b\u1ed1 m\u1eb9 l\u00e0 c\u1ea7n suy ngh\u0129 k\u0129 v\u1ec1 li\u1ec7u nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc n\u00e0y c\u00f3 kh\u1edbp v\u1edbi m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n v\u00e0 m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p c\u1ee7a con c\u00e1c b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng. C\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u \u0111\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc xu\u1ea5t s\u1eafc kh\u00e1c m\u00e0 h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 xin v\u00e0o, kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 t\u00ean n\u1ed5i ti\u1ebfng m\u00e0 h\u1ecd ph\u1ea3i nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u d\u00f9ng th\u00f4ng tin t\u1eeb vi\u1ec7c x\u1ebfp h\u1ea1ng c\u00e1c tr\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u01b0 U.S. News v\u00e0 World Report v\u1ec1 danh ti\u1ebfng v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 xu\u1ea5t s\u1eafc h\u00e0n l\u00e2m c\u1ee7a tr\u01b0\u1eddng. T\u00ecm ra “tr\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u00fang” cho con b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u1ea1o ra kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t l\u1edbn cho th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. T\u1ea5t nhi\u00ean, n\u1ebfu con b\u1ea1n gi\u1ecfi v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e3 h\u1ecdc t\u1ed1t \u1edf trung h\u1ecdc, con b\u1ea1n n\u00ean xin v\u00e0o “tr\u01b0\u1eddng m\u01a1 \u01b0\u1edbc” nh\u01b0ng \u0111\u1eebng qu\u00ean xin v\u00e0o c\u00e1c tr\u01b0\u1eddng kh\u00e1c n\u1eefa. B\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u00f3 c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eadn v\u00e0o \u1edf \u0111\u00f3 h\u01a1n l\u00e0 \u1edf c\u00e1c tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u00e0ng \u0111\u1ea7u.<\/p>\n
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Advice on studying oversea<\/p>\n
In the past few weeks, I received several emails from parents asking for advice regarding the studying in the U.S. schools. Some want to send their children to attend top universities (i.e., Harvard, Stanford, Yale, Princeton, MIT, Carnegie Mellon and Cornell, etc.) Since I cannot answer each individual email, I would like to use this blog to answer some of their concerns.<\/p>\n
Although your children may do well in high school, passing required college entrance exams with a high score, have good English skills but to do well in college, especially in a foreign country, requires more than just things they learn in high schools. They have to be prepared for the challenge of studying in a different education system and environment as well as how mature they are to be responsible for their action.<\/p>\n
The most challenging factor for any parents is choosing the \u201cright university\u201d for their children. There are many choices (i.e. Public or Private;\u00a0 for-profit or non-profit colleges; traditional or online; large or small, etc.) My advice is both you and your children need to carefully investigate many universities BEFORE applying as it will take time and efforts.<\/p>\n
Some parents want their children to attend the best universities without taking into consideration of the fierce selective in the admission process. Each year, hundreds thousand students apply to Havard, Yale, Stanford, Berkeley, Carnegie Mellon, or MIT and most applications were rejected. I often wonder why many parents want their children to go to these famous universities, knowing that over 90 percent of their applications could be rejected? Many people believe that these prestigious schools will make a big difference in their children\u2019s career . The fact is the successful career of college graduates is depending\u00a0 on their knowledge and skills and how well they function in their job, NOT on the degree from the school that they attend.<\/p>\n
A few years ago, when teaching in Asia, I met some parents who were proud that their children were attending these top school. They told me: \u201cMy son is at Harvard.\u201d Or \u201cMy daughter is studying at Stanford.\u201d\u00a0I understand about their \u201cPride\u201d of having children at these\u00a0 schools. But being a Professor in one of these schools, I have seen issues that their children did not tell them. For example, How many parents know whether their children are thriving or struggling in these schools? Or How much stress they are enduring in a fiercely competitive environment? No one doubts the prestigious degree from these universities but there is a lot of pressure there too. Sometimes, the heavy curriculum could overwhelm the student if he or she is not prepared. My view is top universities are NOT for everybody. Getting accepted is one thing, but doing well is another matter. I have seen many students struggled, failed and eventually got dismissed and that can be devastated to their psyche. That type of failure can linger for a long time and may not never be healed.<\/p>\n
My advice is both parents and their children should discuss thoroughly on which school to apply. It is also important to have a career plan ready to set the direction for the study, especially if the children are a not mature enough or still unsure about their educational goals. To study in a foreign university is a major investment in term of time, money and efforts and parents and children must investigate carefully by looking at some major factors such as the rigorous of the training programs (i.e. how much time students must spend studying each week? How much reading is expected? What type of training methods is being used such as traditional lecturing or active learning where students learn in a group? What is the ratio between faculty and students? What is the students\u2019 placement number? How many units are needed for graduation in the field of study? How many foreign students are studying in that school, etc.)<\/p>\n
My advice for the parents is\u00a0to be thoughtful about whether these universities fit with your children\u2019s personal and career goals. There are many other excellent universities that they can apply without the famous names that they should investigate using information from the ranking of schools such as the U.S. News and World Report on the reputation and academic excellence of the school. Finding the \u201cright school\u201d for your children can make a big difference to their future success. Of course, if your children are strong and have done well in high schools, they should apply to their \u201cdream school\u201d but do not forget to apply to other schools too. You may have a better chance to get accepted there than the top universities.<\/p>\n
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