{"id":3854,"date":"2013-12-13T16:14:39","date_gmt":"2013-12-13T09:14:39","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/science-technology.vn\/?p=3854"},"modified":"2013-12-13T16:14:39","modified_gmt":"2013-12-13T09:14:39","slug":"cuoc-song-va-dam-me","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/science-technology.vn\/?p=3854","title":{"rendered":"Cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng v\u00e0 \u0111am m\u00ea"},"content":{"rendered":"

Tu\u1ea7n tr\u01b0\u1edbc ch\u00e1u g\u00e1i t\u00f4i t\u1edbi th\u0103m t\u00f4i, ch\u00e1u s\u1ebd t\u1ed1t nghi\u1ec7p v\u00e0o th\u00e1ng s\u00e1u v\u1edbi b\u1eb1ng trong kinh doanh nh\u01b0ng \u0111i\u1ec1u ch\u00e1y th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 mu\u1ed1n l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ca s\u0129. Ch\u00e1u kh\u00f4ng th\u00edch kinh doanh nh\u01b0ng b\u1ed1 m\u1eb9 ch\u00e1u kh\u0103ng kh\u0103ng r\u1eb1ng ch\u00e1u ph\u1ea3i xin v\u00e0o h\u1ecdc v\u00e0o kinh doanh v\u00ec ch\u00e1u c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ki\u1ebfm \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c vi\u1ec7c l\u00e0m v\u1edbi b\u1eb1ng c\u1ea5p \u0111\u00f3. Ch\u00e1u g\u00e1i t\u00f4i th\u00edch \u00e2m nh\u1ea1c, phim \u1ea3nh v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ecdc nhi\u1ec1u t\u1ea1p ch\u00ed v\u1ec1 c\u00e1c nam n\u1eef ngh\u1ec7 s\u0129 n\u1ed5i ti\u1ebfng; ch\u00e1u th\u01b0\u1eddng n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 h\u1ecd nh\u01b0 c\u00e1c th\u1ea7n t\u01b0\u1ee3ng. Ca h\u00e1t l\u00e0 \u0111am m\u00ea c\u1ee7a ch\u00e1u, v\u00e0 ch\u00e1u c\u00f3 gi\u1ecdng hay.<\/span><\/p>\n

Nh\u01b0ng khi t\u00f4i th\u1ea3o lu\u1eadn v\u1ec1 ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p v\u1edbi ch\u00e1u, t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch cho ch\u00e1u v\u1ec1 th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf c\u1ee7a vi\u1ec7c \u0111i theo “\u01b0\u1edbc m\u01a1 \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t” c\u1ee7a ch\u00e1u: “Ch\u00e1u c\u1ea7n c\u00f3 vi\u1ec7c l\u00e0m t\u1ed1t n\u1ebfu kh\u00f4ng ch\u00e1u s\u1ebd ph\u1ea3i ph\u1ee5 thu\u1ed9c v\u00e0o b\u1ed1 m\u1eb9 \u0111\u1ec3 h\u1ed7 tr\u1ee3 cho ch\u00e1u trong m\u1ed9t th\u1eddi gian d\u00e0i. H\u00e1t cho vui l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t \u0111i\u1ec1u; h\u00e1t karaoke c\u00f9ng b\u1ea1n b\u00e8 l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u kh\u00e1c, nh\u01b0ng h\u00e1t nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t ca s\u0129 chuy\u00ean nghi\u1ec7p l\u00e0 kh\u00e1c ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n. H\u00e1t chuy\u00ean nghi\u1ec7p l\u00e0 c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c r\u1ea5t c\u1ea1nh tranh v\u00e0 ch\u00e1u c\u1ea7n nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 gi\u1ecdng hay v\u00ec ch\u00e1u ph\u1ea3i \u0111i t\u1edbi c\u00e1c c\u00e2u l\u1ea1c b\u1ed9 \u0111\u00eam v\u00e0 r\u1ea1p h\u00e1t, ch\u00e1u s\u1ebd ph\u1ea3i x\u1eed tr\u00ed v\u1edbi \u0111\u1ee7 m\u1ecdi lo\u1ea1i ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00e0 ch\u00e1u ch\u01b0a bao gi\u1edd g\u1eb7p nh\u01b0 c\u00e1c sinh vi\u00ean \u0111\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc tr\u1ebb v.v.\u201d Trong th\u1ea3o lu\u1eadn c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang t\u00f4i, ch\u00e1u l\u1eafng nghe ch\u0103m ch\u00fa l\u1eddi khuy\u00ean c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng n\u00f3i g\u00ec m\u1ea5y.<\/p>\n

Sau khi ch\u00e1u \u0111i r\u1ed3i, t\u00f4i ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 \u0111i\u1ec1u t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 n\u00f3i trong m\u1ed9t th\u1eddi gian d\u00e0i: \u201cCh\u00e1u t\u00f4i c\u00f3 n\u00ean theo \u0111u\u1ed5i m\u01a1 \u01b0\u1edbc c\u1ee7a ch\u00e1u hay t\u1eeb b\u1ecf n\u00f3 v\u00e0 l\u00e0m c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00e1c? R\u1ea5t kh\u00f3 khuy\u00ean ai \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 \u0111am m\u00ea m\u1ea1nh v\u1ec1 c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3, cho d\u00f9 n\u00f3 l\u00e0 th\u1ee9 r\u1ea5t r\u1ee7i ro.\u201d T\u00f4i c\u0169ng ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 c\u00e1c sinh vi\u00ean kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 \u0111am m\u00ea v\u1ec1 \u0111i\u1ec1u h\u1ecd \u0111ang theo \u0111u\u1ed5i. Khi t\u00f4i h\u1ecfi h\u1ecd: “C\u00e1c b\u1ea1n th\u00edch l\u00e0m g\u00ec v\u1edbi ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh?” C\u00e2u tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi l\u00e0 ng\u1eafn v\u00e0 \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n: “L\u1eadp tr\u00ecnh m\u00e1y t\u00ednh.” Khi t\u00f4i h\u1ecfi: “T\u1ea1i sao?” C\u00e2u tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi l\u1ea1i \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n: “V\u00ec em c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ki\u1ebfm \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c vi\u1ec7c l\u00e0m t\u1ed1t.” Khi t\u00f4i h\u1ecfi: “B\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u00edch l\u1eadp tr\u00ecnh c\u1ea3 \u0111\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng?” C\u00e2u tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi l\u00e0: “Em kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft. N\u00f3 ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t vi\u1ec7c l\u00e0m.\u201d Kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 \u0111am m\u00ea trong c\u00e1ch h\u1ecd n\u00f3i v\u00ec h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00f4ng h\u00ecnh dung ra \u0111i\u1ec1u h\u1ecd mu\u1ed1n l\u00e0m v\u1edbi \u0111\u1eddi h\u1ecd. Nhi\u1ec1u sinh vi\u00ean ch\u1ec9 ngh\u0129 r\u1eb1ng gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c l\u00e0 v\u1ec1 c\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c b\u1eb1ng c\u1ea5p; t\u00ecm \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c vi\u1ec7c l\u00e0m c\u00f3 l\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u1ed1t, v\u00e0 cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng l\u00e0 \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n th\u1ebf. Nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 b\u1ea5t k\u00ec c\u00e1i g\u00ec th\u00eam n\u1eefa. Trong c\u1ea3 ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 g\u1eb7p nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf; h\u1ecd \u0111i l\u00e0m m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 \u00fd th\u1ee9c n\u00e0o v\u1ec1 m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch hay \u0111am m\u00ea trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng m\u00e0 ch\u1ec9 l\u1eb7p l\u1ea1i c\u00f9ng h\u00ecnh m\u1eabu, ch\u1eebng n\u00e0o h\u1ecd v\u1eabn c\u00f3 vi\u1ec7c l\u00e0m.<\/p>\n

T\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 may m\u1eafn v\u00ec t\u00f4i c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u th\u1ea7y gi\u00e1o gi\u00fap t\u00f4i \u0111\u1eb7t m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p. H\u1ecd gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch to\u00e0n th\u1ec3 b\u1ee9c tranh v\u1ec1 cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi ph\u00eda tr\u01b0\u1edbc cho h\u1ecdc sinh tr\u1ebb nh\u01b0 t\u00f4i, h\u1ecd cho nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi khuy\u00ean v\u1ec1 ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p, vi\u1ec7c l\u00e0m, ngh\u0129a v\u1ee5, tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m, v\u00e0 l\u00e0m th\u1ea5m nhu\u1ea7n nh\u1eefng \u0111am m\u00ea n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3, \u0111i\u1ec1u gi\u00fap cho t\u00f4i th\u1ea5y xa h\u01a1n l\u00e0 ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u1ea5m b\u1eb1ng v\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c l\u00e0m. H\u1ecd gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch v\u1ec1 x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p m\u00e0 t\u00f4i c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 y\u00eau m\u1ebfn, ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p m\u00e0 m\u1ecdi s\u00e1ng t\u00f4i s\u1ebd h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac \u0111i l\u00e0m. Ph\u1ea7n l\u1edbn c\u00e1c th\u1ea7y c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i \u0111\u1ec1u kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0m ra \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u1ee7 ti\u1ec1n nh\u01b0ng t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 h\u1ecd \u0111\u1ec1u th\u00edch th\u00fa d\u1ea1y h\u1ecdc. M\u1ed9t th\u1ea7y gi\u00e1o n\u00f3i: \u201cNhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ee7 may m\u1eafn \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f3 vi\u1ec7c l\u00e0m m\u00e0 h\u1ecd \u0111am m\u00ea. M\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec1u mu\u1ed1n c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p nh\u01b0ng nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ecb l\u1eabn l\u1ed9n gi\u1eefa h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac v\u00e0 l\u01b0\u01a1ng b\u1ed5ng. C\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 v\u1ecb tr\u00ed \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c tr\u1ea3 l\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u1ed1t nh\u01b0ng h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac trong vai tr\u00f2 c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd m\u00e0 h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 b\u1ecf \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c n\u00f3 v\u00ec h\u1ecd s\u1ee3 c\u00e1i kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft v\u00e0 h\u1ecd s\u1ed1ng trong s\u1ee3 h\u00e3i c\u1ea3 \u0111\u1eddi h\u1ecd.\u201d<\/p>\n

M\u1ed9t trong c\u00e1c th\u1ea7y gi\u00e1o c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec1u h\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t c\u00f4ng ti l\u1edbn nh\u01b0ng \u00f4ng \u1ea5y \u0111\u00e3 b\u1ecf vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u00f3 v\u00ec \u00f4ng \u1ea5y th\u00edch d\u1ea1y h\u1ecdc. \u00d4ng \u1ea5y n\u00f3i: \u201cTh\u1ec9nh tho\u1ea3ng, b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd nh\u1eadn ra r\u1eb1ng ti\u1ec1n kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 m\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c ho\u00e0n th\u00e0nh ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p m\u1edbi quan tr\u1ecdng h\u01a1n. Ch\u1ec9 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ee7 b\u1ea1o d\u1ea1n m\u1edbi c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng t\u00ecm ra n\u00f3 v\u00ec h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac l\u00e0 c\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111i\u1ec1u b\u1ea1n cho ch\u1ee9 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i \u0111i\u1ec1u b\u1ea1n nh\u1eadn.\u201d Khi m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi h\u1ecfi t\u00f4i t\u1ea1i sao t\u00f4i mu\u1ed1n d\u1ea1y khi t\u00f4i c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m ra \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nhi\u1ec1u ti\u1ec1n h\u01a1n trong c\u00f4ng nghi\u1ec7p ph\u1ea7n m\u1ec1m b\u1eb1ng kinh nghi\u1ec7m c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i, t\u00f4i b\u1ea3o h\u1ecd: \u201cT\u00f4i mang n\u1ee3 nhi\u1ec1u v\u1edbi th\u1ebf h\u1ec7 tr\u01b0\u1edbc, nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e3 d\u1ea1y t\u00f4i v\u00e0 chia s\u1ebb c\u00f9ng t\u00f4i tr\u00ed hu\u1ec7 c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd v\u00e0 vi\u1ec5n ki\u1ebfn c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd cho n\u00ean t\u00f4i ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0m c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n cho th\u1ebf h\u1ec7 sau. \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 l\u00ed do t\u1ea1i sao t\u00f4i v\u1ec1 h\u01b0u s\u1edbm v\u00e0 c\u1ed1ng hi\u1ebfn cho gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c v\u00e0 khuy\u00ean b\u1ea3o sinh vi\u00ean.\u201d<\/p>\n

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Life and passion<\/p>\n

Last week my niece came to see me, she will graduate in June with a degree in business but what she really wanted is to be a singer. She did not like business but her parents insisted that she enrolled in business because she could get a job with that degree. My niece likes music, movies and read a lot of magazines about famous actors and actress; she often talked about them as her idols. Singing is her passion, and she has a good voice.<\/p>\n

But as I discussed about career with her, I explained to her about the reality of following her \u201cspecial dream\u201d: “You need to have a good job else you will have to depend on your parents to support you for a long time. Singing for fun is one thing; singing karaoke with friends is another thing, but singing as a professional is completely difference. Singing professionally is a very competitive business and you need more than just a good voice as you travel to nightclubs and theaters, you will have to deal with all types of people that you never encounter as young college students \u2026etc.\u201d During our discussion, she listened carefully to my advices but did not say much.<\/p>\n

After she left, I thought about what I said for a long time: \u201cShould my niece pursues her dream or give it up and do something else? It is very difficult to advice someone who has a strong passion for something, even it is a very risky one.\u201d I also thought about students that have no passion about what they are pursuing. When I asked them: “What do you like to do with your career?” The answer was short and simple: “Computer programming.” When I asked: “Why?” Again the answer was simple “Because I can get a good job.” When I asked: “Can you enjoy programming all your life?” The answer was: “I do not know. It is just a job.\u201d There is no passion in the way they talked as they have not figured out what they want to do with their life. Many students only think that education is about getting a degree; find a job with good salary, and life is that simple. Many do not want to think about anything further. Throughout my career, I have met many people like that; they go to work without any sense of purpose or passion in life but just repeat the same pattern, as long as they have a job.<\/p>\n

I was fortunate because I had many teachers who helped me to set my career goals. They explained the entire picture about life ahead for young student like me, they gave advices about careers, jobs, duty, responsibilities, and instilled some passions that help me see much further that just getting a degree and a job. They explained about building a career that I could love, a career that every morning I would be happy to go to work. Most of my teachers were not making enough money but they all enjoyed teaching. One teacher said: \u201cMany people are not fortunate enough to have a job which they are passionate about. Everyone wants a career but many are confused between happiness and salary. There are many who have a well-paid position but they are unhappy in their role but they cannot leave it because they are afraid of the unknown and they live in fear all of their life.\u201d<\/p>\n

One of my teachers was an executive of a big company but he left that job because he likes teaching. He said: \u201cAfter a while, you will realize that money is not everything but a fulfilling career is more important. Only those brave enough would be able to find it as happiness is getting what you give not what you take.\u201d When people asked me why I want to teach when I could make much more in the software industry with my experiences, I told them: \u201cI owned a lot to previous generation who taught me and shared with me their wisdoms and their vision so I should do something better for the next generation. That is why I retired early and devote to education and advice students.\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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