{"id":2815,"date":"2013-07-07T21:31:23","date_gmt":"2013-07-07T14:31:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/science-technology.vn\/?p=2815"},"modified":"2013-07-07T21:31:23","modified_gmt":"2013-07-07T14:31:23","slug":"cuoc-song-va-hanh-phuc","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/science-technology.vn\/?p=2815","title":{"rendered":"Cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng v\u00e0 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac"},"content":{"rendered":"

Khi ng\u00e0y t\u1ed1t nghi\u1ec7p t\u1edbi g\u1ea7n, t\u00f4i c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t th\u1ea3o lu\u1eadn th\u00fa v\u1ecb v\u1ec1 ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p trong l\u1edbp ph\u1ea7n m\u1ec1m. M\u1ed9t sinh vi\u00ean n\u00f3i: \u201cT\u00f4i mu\u1ed1n c\u00f3 vi\u1ec7c l\u00e0m \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c tr\u1ea3 l\u01b0\u01a1ng cao v\u1eady th\u00ec t\u00f4i s\u1ebd h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

C\u00e2u h\u1ecfi c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i cho c\u00e1c sinh vi\u00ean l\u00e0: \u201cBao nhi\u00eau ti\u1ec1n s\u1ebd l\u00e0m cho b\u1ea1n h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac? N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac v\u1edbi $40,000 m\u1ed9t n\u0103m, b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac kh\u00f4ng khi b\u1ea1n c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n l\u00e0m \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c $50,000? B\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u00ecm th\u1ea5y h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac qua m\u1ed9t m\u00ecnh ti\u1ec1n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c kh\u00f4ng?” T\u1ea5t nhi\u00ean, c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi n\u00e0y l\u00e0m b\u1ed9t ph\u00e1t th\u1ea3o lu\u1eadn trong sinh vi\u00ean. M\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng h\u1ecd s\u1ebd h\u00e0i l\u00f2ng v\u1edbi \u0111i\u1ec1u h\u1ecd c\u00f3 nh\u01b0ng s\u1ed1 kh\u00e1c \u0111\u1eb7t c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi t\u1ea1i sao ai \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u01b0\u01a1ng cao h\u01a1n.<\/p>\n

T\u00f4i h\u1ecfi c\u00e1c sinh vi\u00ean c\u00f3 ngh\u0129 t\u1edbi t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng n\u00e0y: \u201cT\u01b0\u1edfng t\u01b0\u1ee3ng r\u1eb1ng b\u1ea1n l\u00e0m \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c $50,000 m\u1ed9t n\u0103m v\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi qu\u1ea3n l\u00ed c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n cho b\u1ea1n t\u0103ng l\u00ean $55,000 v\u00ec b\u1ea1n l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c t\u1ed1t. B\u1ea1n r\u1ea5t h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac b\u1edfi v\u00ec b\u1ea1n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u1eeba nh\u1eadn v\u1ec1 c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n v\u00e0 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u01b0\u1edfng b\u1eb1ng l\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u1ed1t. M\u1ed9t th\u00e1ng tr\u00f4i qua r\u1ed3i m\u1ed9t c\u00f4ng ti kh\u00e1c tr\u1ea3 cho b\u1ea1n $60,000 n\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c cho h\u1ecd. B\u1ea1n n\u00f3i v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi qu\u1ea3n l\u00ed c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh v\u1ec1 \u0111\u1ec1 ngh\u1ecb \u0111\u00f3 nh\u01b0ng \u00f4ng \u1ea5y n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng \u00f4ng \u1ea5y kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 tr\u1ea3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u1eebng \u0111\u00f3. B\u00e2y gi\u1edd b\u1ed7ng nhi\u00ean b\u1ea1n c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y b\u1ea5t h\u1ea1nh b\u1edfi v\u00ec b\u1ea1n b\u1ecb tr\u1ea3 th\u1ea5p v\u00e0 b\u1ea1n mu\u1ed1n ra \u0111i.\u201d<\/p>\n

T\u00f4i mu\u1ed1n sinh vi\u00ean nh\u00ecn v\u00e0o h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac v\u00e0 ti\u1ec1n b\u1ea1c t\u1eeb quan \u0111i\u1ec3m kh\u00e1c. Sau khi cho ph\u00e9p c\u00e1c sinh vi\u00ean th\u1ea3o lu\u1eadn v\u1ec1 t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng n\u00e0y trong v\u00e0i ph\u00fat, t\u00f4i ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c: \u201cGi\u1ea3 s\u1eed r\u1eb1ng b\u1ea1n b\u1ecf vi\u1ec7c n\u00e0y v\u00e0 l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c cho c\u00f4ng ti m\u1edbi. V\u1edbi l\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n, b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 mua \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u00e1y laptop m\u1edbi, \u0111i\u1ec7n tho\u1ea1i di \u0111\u1ed9ng m\u1edbi, qu\u1ea7n \u00e1o m\u1edbi, c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u1ea3 xe m\u00e1y v\u00e0 b\u1ea1n h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c trong v\u00e0i th\u00e1ng. B\u1ed7ng nhi\u00ean b\u1ea1n th\u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng c\u00f4ng ti c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n \u0111ang tr\u1ea3 cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c v\u1edbi c\u00f9ng k\u0129 n\u0103ng nh\u01b0ng l\u1ea1i nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n tr\u1ea3 cho b\u1ea1n qu\u00e3ng $5,000. Th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd th\u1ebf n\u00e0o? B\u1ea1n c\u00f3 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac kh\u00f4ng?”<\/p>\n

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\u0110\u1ebfn l\u00fac n\u00e0y, m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 sinh vi\u00ean b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u tranh c\u00e3i \u201c\u0110i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng x\u1ea3y ra cho t\u00f4i. T\u00f4i s\u1ebd v\u1eabn h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac.\u201d Nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00f3i v\u1edbi t\u00f4i l\u00e0 h\u1ecd l\u00e0 ngo\u1ea1i l\u1ec7 cho lo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng n\u00e0y. T\u00f4i b\u1ea3o h\u1ecd ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng l\u00e0 khi l\u01b0\u01a1ng c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd t\u0103ng l\u00ean, chi ph\u00ed c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd c\u0169ng s\u1ebd t\u0103ng l\u00ean c\u00f9ng ham mu\u1ed1n c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. M\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ebd ngh\u0129 \u201cC\u00e0ng nhi\u1ec1u c\u00e0ng t\u1ed1t.\u201d L\u1ea7n \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi nh\u1eadn l\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u1ed1t, h\u1ecd r\u1ea5t h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac nh\u01b0ng sau \u0111\u00f3, m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 l\u1ea1i l\u00e0 s\u0103n \u0111u\u1ed5i theo nhi\u1ec1u th\u1ee9 h\u01a1n m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng may m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac s\u1ebd \u00edt \u0111i nhi\u1ec1u. V\u1ec1 c\u0103n b\u1ea3n, h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac ph\u1ee5 thu\u1ed9c v\u00e0o vi\u1ec7c c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng \u0111\u00e1p \u1ee9ng nhu c\u1ea7u c\u01a1 b\u1ea3n nh\u01b0 \u0103n, m\u1eb7c v\u00e0 \u1edf. Sau khi \u0111\u00e1p \u1ee9ng c\u00e1c nhu c\u1ea7u \u0111\u00f3, m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ebd thay \u0111\u1ed5i trong ng\u01b0\u1eddi ti\u00eau d\u00f9ng v\u1ec1 b\u1ea5t k\u00ec c\u00e1i g\u00ec h\u1ecd mu\u1ed1n. Ph\u1ea7n l\u1edbn m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec1u mu\u1ed1n h\u01a1n n\u00ean ti\u1ec1n th\u00eam s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng t\u00e1c d\u1ee5ng l\u00ean c\u00e1ch h\u1ecd h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac. M\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac tu\u1ef3 thu\u1ed9c v\u00e0o ham mu\u1ed1n c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. H\u1ecd l\u00e0m ra bao nhi\u00eau ti\u1ec1n kh\u00f4ng th\u00e0nh v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1, n\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd \u0111\u1ee7 c\u1ea3. V\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 l\u00e0 khi h\u1ecd c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n, h\u1ecd s\u1ebd lo ngh\u0129 h\u01a1n th\u1ebf r\u1ed3i \u0111\u1ed9t nhi\u00ean vi\u1ec7c l\u00e0m c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh g\u00e1nh n\u1eb7ng. H\u1ecd s\u1ebd lo ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 m\u1ea5t vi\u1ec7c. H\u1ecd s\u1ebd lo ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi qu\u1ea3n l\u00ed c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd v\u00e0 m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u00e1c \u0111\u1ed9ng l\u00ean h\u1ecd. R\u1ed3i h\u1ecd s\u1ee3 m\u1ea5t \u0111i\u1ec1u h\u1ecd c\u00f3 v\u00e0 nhi\u1ec1u \u0111i\u1ec1u kh\u00e1c. L\u00e0m sao h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac v\u1edbi lo ngh\u0129 v\u00e0 s\u1ee3 h\u00e3i th\u1ebf?<\/p>\n

V\u00e0o l\u00fac \u0111\u00f3, sinh vi\u00ean b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u h\u1ecfi t\u00f4i v\u1ec1 quan \u0111i\u1ec3m c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i v\u1ec1 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac. T\u1ea5t nhi\u00ean, \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi r\u1ea5t c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n nh\u01b0ng t\u00f4i tin r\u1eb1ng l\u1ea1c quan s\u1ebd l\u00e0m cho m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac. C\u00f3 th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 l\u1ea1c quan s\u1ebd t\u00e1c \u0111\u1ed9ng l\u00ean h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n l\u00e0 c\u00f3 ti\u1ec1n. Khi nhi\u1ec1u sinh vi\u00ean s\u1ebd s\u1edbm t\u1ed1t nghi\u1ec7p, t\u00f4i h\u1ecfi h\u1ecd ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p, kh\u00f4ng v\u1ec1 vi\u1ec7c l\u00e0m. Ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p l\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c theo \u0111u\u1ed5i m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch c\u1ea3 \u0111\u1eddi hay ti\u1ebfn tr\u00ecnh ti\u1ebfn b\u1ed9 h\u01b0\u1edbng t\u1edbi m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch c\u1ea3 \u0111\u1eddi, \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u1ed1i l\u1eadp v\u1edbi vi\u1ec7c l\u00e0m hay ho\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ki\u1ebfm ti\u1ec1n. T\u00f4i mu\u1ed1n sinh vi\u00ean ngh\u0129 nghi\u00eam ch\u1ec9nh v\u1ec1 \u0111i\u1ec1u h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m, lo\u1ea1i c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c n\u00e0o h\u1ecd th\u00edch l\u00e0m trong nhi\u1ec1u n\u0103m, lo\u1ea1i c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c g\u00ec h\u1ecd t\u1eadn h\u01b0\u1edfng l\u00e0m b\u1edfi v\u00ec khi b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 \u0111am m\u00ea v\u1ec1 c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, ph\u1ea7n th\u01b0\u1edfng s\u1ebd t\u1edbi. N\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 ti\u1ec1n, n\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00e1c. \u0110i\u1ec1u quan tr\u1ecdng l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3i hu\u1ea5n luy\u1ec7n b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n m\u00ecnh ngh\u0129 m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch t\u00edch c\u1ef1c v\u1ec1 b\u1ea5t k\u00ec \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec x\u1ea3y ra cho b\u1ea1n. Cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng ch\u01b0a bao gi\u1edd d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng v\u00e0 c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u bi\u1ebfn c\u1ed1, c\u00e1i th\u00ec t\u1ed1t v\u00e0 c\u00e1i th\u00ec c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 kh\u00f4ng t\u1ed1t. \u0110i\u1ec1u b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 h\u1ecdc \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u1eeb ch\u00fang s\u1ebd h\u00ecnh th\u00e0nh n\u00ean t\u00ednh c\u00e1ch c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac nh\u1ea5t m\u00e0 t\u00f4i g\u1eb7p l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi thu \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh qua b\u1ea5t h\u1ea1nh. H\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng tr\u00e1ch cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u b\u00ean ngo\u00e0i, h\u1ecd t\u1ef1 tin v\u1ec1 b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n m\u00ecnh, v\u00e0 h\u1ecd nh\u1eadn tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7n v\u1ec1 h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac nh\u1eadn tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m cho th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 coi th\u1ea5t b\u1ea1i ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 bi\u1ebfn c\u1ed1 t\u1ea1m th\u1eddi. \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u t\u00f4i ng\u1ee5 \u00fd b\u1edfi l\u1ea1c quan.<\/p>\n

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Life and happiness<\/p>\n

As the graduation day is near, I have an interesting discussion about jobs and careers in my software class. A student said: \u201cI want to have a job that pay a lot of money then I will be happy\u201d.<\/p>\n

My question to the students was: \u201cHow much money would make you happy? If you are happy with $40,000 a year, will you be happy when your friend is making $50,000? Can you find happiness through money alone? Of course, this question triggered discussions among students. Some said that they would be content with what they have but other questioned why someone got better wages.<\/p>\n

I asked students to think about this situation: \u201cImagine that you are making $50,000 a year and your manager gives you a raise to $55,000 because you are doing a good job. You are very happy because you are recognized for your works and rewarded with good salary. A month goes by then another company offers you $60,000 if you work for them. You tell your manager about the offer but he says that he can not pay you that much. Now suddenly you feel unhappy because you are underpaid and you want to leave\u201d.<\/p>\n

I wanted the students to look at happiness and money from a different view. After allowed students to discuss the situation for few minutes, I continued: \u201cAssume that you left the job and work for the new company. With better salary, you can buy a new laptop, new mobile phone, new clothes, maybe new motorcycle and you are happy for few months. Suddenly you find that your company is paying others with the same skill about $5,000 more than they pay you. What would be your attitude? Are you still feel happy?<\/p>\n

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By this time, some students began to argue \u201cIt will not happen to me. I will still be happy\u201d. Many told me that they were exception to this kind of situation. I asked them to think about the situation that when their salaries increase, their expenses will also increase as well as their desires. Some will think \u201cMore will be better\u201d. The first time people receive good salaries, they are very happy but after that, everything is about chasing after more things but unfortunately the level of happiness will be much less. Basically, happiness is dependent on being able to meet basic needs such as food, shelter and clothing. After meeting those needs, people will change into consumers for whatever they want. Most would want more then additional money will have no impact on how happy they are. The level of happiness at that time is depending on their desires. No matter how much money they make, it never enough. The issue is when they have more, they will worry more then suddenly their job become a burden. They will worry about losing jobs, They will worry about their managers and everything that can impact them. Then they are afraid of losing what they have and many other things. How can they be happy with such worries and fears?<\/p>\n

At that time, students began to ask me about my view on happiness. Of course, it is a very personal question but I believe that optimism will make people happy. Having optimism will impact happiness more than having money. As many students will graduate soon, I asked them to think about their careers, not jobs. A career is the pursuit of a lifelong goal or a course of progression toward a lifelong goals which is the opposite of a job or an work activity that you can earn money. I wanted students to think seriously about what they can do, what kind of work that they would love to do for many years, what kind of work that they would enjoy doing because when you have passion for your work, the reward will come. It could be money, it could be something else. The importing thing is you must train yourself to think positively for whatever happen to you. Life is never easy and has many events, some good and some may not be good. What you can learn from them will shape your character. The most happiest people that I met are people that gained strengths through adversity. They do not blame their life on external things, they are confident about themselves, and they take responsibility for their actions. Happy people take responsibility for their success and consider failure just a temporary event. That is what I mean by optimism.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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