{"id":1823,"date":"2013-07-03T20:47:32","date_gmt":"2013-07-03T13:47:32","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/science-technology.vn\/?p=1823"},"modified":"2013-07-03T20:47:32","modified_gmt":"2013-07-03T13:47:32","slug":"hoi-xin-su-giup-do","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/science-technology.vn\/?p=1823","title":{"rendered":"H\u1ecfi xin s\u1ef1 gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1"},"content":{"rendered":"

L\u00e0 nh\u00e0 gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c, ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u00e3 bao gi\u1edd t\u1ef1 h\u1ecfi t\u1ea1i sao sinh vi\u00ean c\u1ea7n gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 kh\u00f4ng hay h\u1ecfi xin s\u1ef1 gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 kh\u00f4ng? T\u1ea1i sao h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng t\u1edbi g\u1eb7p ch\u00fang ta khi c\u00f3 th\u1eddi gian m\u00e0 \u0111\u1ee3i cho t\u1edbi khi qu\u00e1 tr\u1ec5?<\/span><\/p>\n

T\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 t\u1eebng d\u1ea1y k\u0129 ngh\u1ec7 ph\u1ea7n m\u1ec1m \u1edf nhi\u1ec1u n\u01b0\u1edbc. N\u1ebfu t\u00f4i ph\u1ea3i \u0111i t\u1edbi nh\u1eefng n\u01a1i kh\u00f4ng n\u00f3i ti\u1ebfng Anh th\u00ec t\u00f4i ph\u1ea3i nh\u1edd v\u00e0o b\u1ea1n b\u00e8 \u0111\u1ecba ph\u01b0\u01a1ng gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1. N\u0103m ngo\u00e1i, t\u00f4i d\u1ea1y m\u1ed9t x\u00ea mi na \u1edf Nh\u1eadt B\u1ea3n, t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 \u1edf Nh\u1eadt B\u1ea3n v\u00e0i l\u1ea7n trong qu\u00e1 kh\u1ee9 cho n\u00ean t\u00f4i ngh\u0129 r\u1eb1ng t\u00f4i c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u00ecm \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111i m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1. T\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 ph\u1ea1m sai l\u1ea7m v\u00e0 l\u1ea1c \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng \u1edf tr\u1ea1m xe \u0111i\u1ec7n ng\u1ea7m. T\u00f4i \u0111o\u00e1n t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 l\u1ea5y nh\u1ea7m thang m\u00e1y sang m\u1ee9c kh\u00e1c v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 t\u00ecm \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng quay l\u1ea1i. T\u00f4i c\u1ea7n \u0111i t\u1edbi cu\u1ed9c h\u1ecdp v\u00e0o l\u00fac 9 gi\u1edd s\u00e1ng v\u00e0 ch\u1ec9 c\u00f2n n\u1eeda gi\u1edd \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111i t\u1edbi \u0111\u00f3. T\u00f4i c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y r\u1ea5t b\u1ea5t ti\u1ec7n v\u00e0 l\u1eabn l\u1ed9n. Tr\u1ea1m xe \u0111i\u1ec7n \u0111\u00f4ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u00e0 t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 c\u00e1c bi\u1ec3n b\u00e1o \u0111\u1ec1u b\u1eb1ng ti\u1ebfng Nh\u1eadt. T\u00f4i \u0111i t\u1eeb t\u1ea7ng n\u1ecd sang t\u1ea7ng kia v\u1edbi hi v\u1ecdng t\u00ecm ra \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c. T\u00f4i t\u1ef1 h\u1ecfi m\u00ecnh \u201cSao m\u00ecnh kh\u00f4ng nh\u1edd m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n \u0111i c\u00f9ng m\u00ecnh?” T\u00f4i \u0111i quanh trong m\u01b0\u1eddi l\u0103m ph\u00fat tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi ng\u1ea7n ng\u1ea1i nh\u1edd s\u1ef1 gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 nh\u01b0ng ph\u1ea7n l\u1edbn m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi nh\u00ecn t\u00f4i v\u00e0 n\u00f3i c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 b\u1eb1ng ti\u1ebfng Nh\u1eadt B\u1ea3n m\u00e0 l\u00e0m cho t\u00f4i c\u00f2n l\u1eabn l\u1ed9n h\u01a1n. Cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng m\u1ed9t sinh vi\u00ean tr\u1ebb d\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u01b0 hi\u1ec3u v\u00e0 \u0111\u01b0a t\u00f4i t\u1edbi \u0111\u00fang thang m\u00e1y v\u00e0 t\u00f4i c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng l\u1ea5y taxi ch\u1ea1y v\u1ec1 \u0111\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc Tokyo.<\/p>\n

Kinh nghi\u1ec7m n\u00e0y d\u1ea1y cho t\u00f4i m\u1ed9t b\u00e0i h\u1ecdc v\u1ec1 h\u1ecfi xin gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1. Kh\u00f4ng d\u1ec5 h\u1ecfi xin gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 v\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 c\u1ea7n d\u0169ng c\u1ea3m \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00e0m nh\u01b0 v\u1eady. B\u1ea1n c\u00e0ng l\u1eabn l\u1ed9n c\u00e0ng kh\u00f3 cho b\u1ea1n h\u1ecfi. Trong t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i, t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00f4ng h\u1ecfi xin gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 m\u00e3i t\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ph\u00fat cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng v\u00ec b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3 t\u00f4i ngh\u0129 t\u00f4i c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u00ecm \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ed1i ra. B\u00e2y gi\u1edd t\u00f4i bi\u1ebft t\u1ea1i sao sinh vi\u00ean c\u1ea7n gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 th\u01b0\u1eddng kh\u00f4ng h\u1ecfi xin gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1. C\u00f3 l\u1ebd h\u1ecd ngh\u0129 r\u1eb1ng h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u00ecm \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u00e2u tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi \u0111\u00fang m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1. Th\u1ec9nh tho\u1ea3ng, b\u1ea3n ch\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a l\u1edbp h\u1ecdc \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng t\u1edbi quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh \u0111\u1ec3 h\u1ecfi xin gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 n\u1eefa. N\u1ebfu l\u1edbp h\u1ecdc nh\u1ea5n m\u1ea1nh v\u00e0o l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c t\u1ed5, c\u1ed9ng t\u00e1c v\u1edbi th\u1ea3o lu\u1eadn m\u1edf, sinh vi\u00ean c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng h\u1ecfi xin gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 h\u01a1n. M\u1eb7t kh\u00e1c, n\u1ebfu \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 ki\u1ec3u truy\u1ec1n th\u1ed1ng n\u01a1i sinh vi\u00ean b\u1ecb \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 nh\u01b0 c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n v\u00e0 th\u01b0\u1eddng b\u1ecb so s\u00e1nh v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c, th\u1ebf th\u00ec sinh vi\u00ean \u00edt c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm s\u1ef1 gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 b\u1edfi v\u00ec h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n b\u1ecb b\u1ea1n b\u00e8 \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1. Trong tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p \u0111\u00f3, c\u00e1c gi\u00e1o s\u01b0 ph\u1ea3i can thi\u1ec7p v\u00e0o. Sinh vi\u00ean \u0111ang ch\u1eadt v\u1eadt kh\u00f4ng n\u00ean ng\u01b0\u1ee3ng ng\u00f9ng tr\u01b0\u1edbc b\u1ea1n b\u00e8 h\u1ecd.<\/p>\n

N\u1ebfu ng\u01b0\u1ee3ng ng\u00f9ng, sinh vi\u00ean s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng h\u1ecdc \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c g\u00ec v\u00e0 c\u00f3 l\u1ebd ch\u1eb3ng bao gi\u1edd mu\u1ed1n h\u1ecfi xin gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 l\u1ea7n n\u1eefa. C\u00e1ch t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng n\u00e0y \u1edf ch\u1ed7 ri\u00eang t\u01b0. T\u00f4i th\u01b0\u1eddng b\u1ea3o sinh vi\u00ean kh\u00f4ng h\u1ecdc t\u1ed1t trong l\u1edbp t\u1edbi g\u1eb7p t\u00f4i \u1edf v\u0103n ph\u00f2ng t\u00f4i \u0111\u1ec3 cho t\u00f4i c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n v\u1edbi h\u1ecd m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c hi\u1ec7n di\u1ec7n. T\u00f4i bi\u1ebft r\u1eb1ng nhi\u1ec1u sinh vi\u00ean t\u1ef1 h\u1ecd h\u1ecdc t\u1ed1t trong l\u1edbp nh\u01b0ng m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi qu\u1ea3 c\u00f3 c\u1ea7n b\u00e0i h\u1ecdc ph\u1ee5 \u0111\u1ea1o th\u00eam. B\u1eb1ng vi\u1ec7c d\u00e0nh th\u1eddi gian ph\u1ee5 \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1, nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 h\u1ecdc t\u1ed1t hay th\u1eadm ch\u00ed xu\u1ea5t s\u1eafc.<\/p>\n

Gi\u00e1o s\u01b0 c\u00f3 tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m \u0111\u1ec3 cho sinh vi\u00ean bi\u1ebft r\u1eb1ng h\u1ecd \u0111ang kh\u00f4ng h\u1ecdc t\u1ed1t trong l\u1edbp. Nh\u01b0ng th\u00f4ng \u0111i\u1ec7p \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c trao theo c\u00e1ch l\u00e0m t\u0103ng c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i m\u00e0 sinh vi\u00ean s\u1ebd d\u1eebng n\u00e9 tr\u00e1nh v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 v\u00e0 b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u nh\u1eadn s\u1ef1 gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 h\u1ecd c\u1ea7n. C\u0169ng nh\u01b0 thu\u1ed1c th\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u1eafng, th\u00eam m\u1ed9t ch\u00fat \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng l\u00e0m cho n\u00f3 d\u1ec5 u\u1ed1ng h\u01a1n. Sinh vi\u00ean c\u1ea7n ch\u00fat \u00edt khuy\u1ebfn kh\u00edch v\u00e0 h\u1ed7 tr\u1ee3 \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ea1t t\u1edbi m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch h\u1ecdc t\u1eadp c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. Th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c t\u1eeb gi\u00e1o s\u01b0 v\u1ec1 n\u0103ng l\u1ef1c c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd s\u1ebd l\u00e0m h\u1ea1i cho t\u1ef1 tin c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. V\u1edbi thanh ni\u00ean, t\u1ef1 tin l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 gi\u00fap cho h\u1ecd \u0111\u1ea1t t\u1edbi \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u1ed5i b\u1eadt. B\u1eb1ng c\u1edfi m\u1edf v\u00e0 l\u00e0m cho b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n b\u1ea1n th\u00e0nh s\u1eb5n c\u00f3 cho sinh vi\u00ean; b\u1eb1ng vi\u1ec7c cho khuy\u1ebfn kh\u00edch; v\u00e0 b\u1eb1ng vi\u1ec7c c\u00f3 th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 t\u00edch c\u1ef1c v\u1ec1 ti\u1ebfn b\u1ed9 c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd, gi\u00e1o s\u01b0 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 trao l\u1ea1i cho sinh vi\u00ean s\u1ef1 t\u1ef1 tin m\u00e0 h\u1ecd c\u1ea7n. Nhi\u1ec1u sinh vi\u00ean b\u1ea3o t\u00f4i r\u1eb1ng m\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u00fat h\u1ed7 tr\u1ee3 th\u00eam \u1edf cu\u1ed1i b\u00e0i c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u1ea1o ra kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t kh\u1ed5ng l\u1ed3 cho h\u1ecd.<\/p>\n

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—-English version—-<\/p>\n

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Asking for helps<\/p>\n

As educators, have we ever wonder why students who need help do not ask for help? Why didn\u2019t they come to see us when there is time but wait until it is too late?<\/p>\n

I have been teaching software engineering in many countries. If I have to go to places where English is not spoken then I have to rely on local friends to help. Last year, I taught a seminar in Japan, I have been in Japan several times in the past so I thought that I could find my way without help. I made a mistake and got lost in a subway station. I guessed I took the wrong elevator to different level and could not find my way back. I needed to go to a meeting at 9 a.m. and had just less than half hour to get there. I felt very uncomfortable and confused. The station was crowded with people and all the signs were in Japanese. I kept walking from floor to floor with the hope to find a way out but could not. I asked myself \u201cWhy didn\u2019t I ask a friend to come along with me? I walked around for fifteen minutes before reluctantly asked for help but most people looked at me and said something in Japanese that made me felt more confused. Finally a young student seemed to understand and took me to the right elevator and I was able to get a taxi to TokyoUniversity.<\/p>\n

The experience taught me a lesson about seeking help. It is not easy to ask for help and it takes courage to so that. The more confused you are the more difficult for you to ask. In my situation, I did not ask for help until the last minute because somehow I think I could find the exit. Now I know why students who need help often do not ask for help. They probably think that they could find the right answers without help. Sometime, the nature of the classroom affects the decision to ask for help too. If the class emphasizes teamwork, collaboration with open discussions, students are more likely to ask for help. On the other hand, if it is a traditional type where students are judged as individual and often compared to others, then students are less likely to seek help because they do not want to be judged by their friends. In that case, professors must interfere. Struggling students do not need to be embarrassed in front of their friends.<\/p>\n

If embarrass, students will not learn anything and probably never want to ask for help again. The best way is to deal with this situation in private. I often ask students who did not do well in class to come to see me in my office so I can talk to them individually without others present. I know that many students do well in classroom by themselves but some do need extra tutorials. By spending extra time to help, many can do well or even excel.<\/p>\n

Professors have a responsibility to let students know that they are not doing well in class. But that message can be given in ways that increase the chance that students will stop avoiding the issue and start getting the help they need. Just like bitter tasting medicine, sometime add a little sugar makes it much easier to take. Students need little encouragements and supports to achieve their learning goal. Negative attitudes from professors about their abilities will do harm to their confidence. With young people, confidence is one thing that can help them to achieve remarkable thing. By open and make yourself available to students; by giving encouragement; and by being positive about their progress, professors can give students back the confidence that they need. Many students told me that a ten extra minutes of support at the end of a class can make a huge difference to them.<\/p>\n

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L\u00e0 nh\u00e0 gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c, ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u00e3 bao gi\u1edd t\u1ef1 h\u1ecfi t\u1ea1i sao sinh vi\u00ean c\u1ea7n gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 kh\u00f4ng hay h\u1ecfi xin s\u1ef1 gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 … <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[29,18],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1823","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-loi-khuyen-cho-giao-vien","category-loi-khuyen-cho-sinh-vien"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/science-technology.vn\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1823","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/science-technology.vn\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/science-technology.vn\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/science-technology.vn\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/science-technology.vn\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1823"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/science-technology.vn\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1823\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1824,"href":"https:\/\/science-technology.vn\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1823\/revisions\/1824"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/science-technology.vn\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1823"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/science-technology.vn\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1823"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/science-technology.vn\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1823"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}