{"id":1497,"date":"2013-07-02T20:45:23","date_gmt":"2013-07-02T13:45:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/science-technology.vn\/?p=1497"},"modified":"2013-07-02T20:45:23","modified_gmt":"2013-07-02T13:45:23","slug":"ki-nang-mem-phan-4","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/science-technology.vn\/?p=1497","title":{"rendered":"K\u0129 n\u0103ng m\u1ec1m ph\u1ea7n 4"},"content":{"rendered":"

Gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft xung \u0111\u1ed9t l\u00e0 k\u0129 n\u0103ng m\u1ec1m quan tr\u1ecdng m\u00e0 m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00ean h\u1ecdc. D\u00f9 b\u1ea1n v\u1eabn trong tr\u01b0\u1eddng hay \u0111\u00e3 \u0111i l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c, xung \u0111\u1ed9t c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 x\u1ea3y ra v\u00e0 n\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c n\u00f3, b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd kinh nghi\u1ec7m c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng, \u0111i\u1ec1u c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 d\u1eabn t\u1edbi nhi\u1ec1u v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 v\u1ec1 sau. C\u00f3 hai ki\u1ec3u xung \u0111\u1ed9t: Xung \u0111\u1ed9t b\u00ean ngo\u00e0i x\u1ea3y ra gi\u1eefa b\u1ea1n v\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. Ch\u1eb3ng h\u1ea1n, b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ed3ng \u00fd v\u1ec1 c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n, hai b\u1ea1n c\u00e3i nhau v\u00e0 b\u1ea1n gi\u1eadn. Xung \u0111\u1ed9t b\u00ean trong x\u1ea3y ra b\u00ean trong m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi. Ch\u1eb3ng h\u1ea1n, b\u1ea1n mu\u1ed1n d\u00e0nh nhi\u1ec1u th\u1eddi gian h\u01a1n cho h\u1ecdc t\u1eadp nh\u01b0ng b\u1eb1ng vi\u1ec7c l\u00e0m \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 d\u00e0nh th\u1eddi gian cho b\u1ea1n g\u00e1i c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. T\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng n\u00e0y t\u1ea1o ra xung \u0111\u1ed9t b\u00ean trong b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n b\u1ea1n v\u00e0 l\u00e0m cho b\u1ea1n r\u1ea5t b\u1ea5t h\u1ea1nh. Nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a xung \u0111\u1ed9t b\u00ean ngo\u00e0i l\u00e0 c\u00e1ch nh\u00ecn r\u1eb1ng b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00fang v\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c sai v\u00e0 b\u1ea1n tr\u00e1ch ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c v\u00ec kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ed3ng \u00fd v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n. Nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a xung \u0111\u1ed9t b\u00ean trong l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n mu\u1ed1n c\u1ea3 hai \u0111i\u1ec1u nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft c\u00e1ch gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft n\u00f3 cho n\u00ean b\u1ea1n tr\u00e1ch b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n m\u00ecnh.<\/span><\/p>\n

Gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft xung \u0111\u1ed9t \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi b\u1ea1n ki\u1ec3m so\u00e1t x\u00fac \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng v\u1edbi n\u00f3 b\u1eb1ng c\u00e3i c\u1ecd, la h\u00e9t v\u00ec \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0m cho v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 th\u00e0nh t\u1ed3i t\u1ec7 h\u01a1n. T\u00f4i th\u01b0\u1eddng khuy\u00ean c\u00e1c sinh vi\u00ean khi xung \u0111\u1ed9t x\u1ea3y ra h\u1ecd n\u00ean tr\u00e1nh m\u1ecdi \u0111\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111\u1ea7u b\u1eb1ng vi\u1ec7c h\u1ecdc ki\u1ec3m so\u00e1t x\u00fac \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. H\u1ecd n\u00ean n\u00f3i: \u201cT\u00f4i c\u1ea7n th\u1eddi gian \u0111\u1ec3 suy ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 n\u00f3 cho n\u00ean ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u1ec3 th\u1ea3o lu\u1eadn n\u00e0y qua l\u1ea7n t\u1edbi ch\u00fang ta g\u1eb7p g\u1ee1.\u201d hay \u201cMai ch\u00fang ta g\u1eb7p l\u1ea1i \u0111\u1ec3 ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c v\u00ec t\u00f4i c\u00f3 cu\u1ed9c h\u1ecdp kh\u00e1c m\u00e0 t\u00f4i ph\u1ea3i \u0111i.\u201d B\u1eb1ng vi\u1ec7c tr\u00e1nh ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng v\u00e0 b\u00e0y t\u1ecf x\u00fac \u0111\u1ed9ng, h\u1ecd c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u th\u1eddi gian h\u01a1n \u0111\u1ec3 ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 xung \u0111\u1ed9t v\u00e0 c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft n\u00f3.<\/p>\n

Ph\u1ea7n l\u1edbn c\u00e1c xung \u0111\u1ed9t ngo\u00e0i \u0111\u1ec1u b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u v\u1edbi kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t v\u1ec1 \u00fd ki\u1ebfn, m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch hay c\u00e1ch nh\u00ecn. Th\u1ec9nh tho\u1ea3ng n\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 g\u00e2y ra b\u1edfi kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t trong ni\u1ec1m tin v\u00e0 gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb. C\u00e1ch t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft n\u00f3 l\u00e0 hi\u1ec3u nh\u1eefng kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t n\u00e0y v\u00e0 th\u1eed thu l\u1ea5y s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ed3ng \u00fd l\u1eabn nhau hay tho\u1ea3 hi\u1ec7p. \u0110\u1ec3 l\u00e0m \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 b\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3i g\u1ea1t sang b\u00ean x\u00fac \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n, \u00fd ki\u1ebfn c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n v\u00e0 s\u1eb5n l\u00f2ng l\u1eafng nghe quan \u0111i\u1ec3m c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n hay thi\u00ean v\u1ecb. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng nh\u01b0ng n\u1ebfu \u00edt nh\u1ea5t m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1eabn c\u00f2n b\u00ecnh t\u0129nh th\u00ec xung \u0111\u1ed9t c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c tr\u00e1nh.<\/p>\n

Gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft xung \u0111\u1ed9t y\u00eau c\u1ea7u b\u1ea1n th\u1ef1c h\u00e0nh k\u0129 n\u0103ng nghe v\u00e0 k\u0129 n\u0103ng trao \u0111\u1ed5i. B\u1eb1ng vi\u1ec7c l\u1eafng nghe c\u1ea9n th\u1eadn ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng thi\u00ean v\u1ecb; b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec3u quan \u0111i\u1ec3m c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd r\u00f5 h\u01a1n. B\u1eb1ng vi\u1ec7c gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng quan \u0111i\u1ec3m c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n theo c\u00e1ch b\u00ecnh t\u0129nh; h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec3u b\u1ea1n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c r\u00f5 h\u01a1n. B\u1eb1ng th\u1ea3o lu\u1eadn v\u1ec1 c\u00e1c kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t theo c\u00e1ch b\u00ecnh t\u0129nh v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng x\u00fac \u0111\u1ed9ng, c\u1ea3 hai b\u00ean c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111i t\u1edbi hi\u1ec3u bi\u1ebft chung hay \u201cm\u1ea3nh \u0111\u1ea5t gi\u1eefa\u201d v\u00e0 ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c h\u01b0\u1edbng t\u1edbi m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch chung. T\u00f4i th\u01b0\u1eddng khuy\u00ean sinh vi\u00ean n\u00ean t\u1eadp trung v\u00e0o \u201cS\u1eeda qui tr\u00ecnh, kh\u00f4ng s\u1eeda ng\u01b0\u1eddi.\u201d N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ed3ng \u00fd v\u1edbi ai \u0111\u00f3, c\u1ea3 hai n\u00ean l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c tr\u00ean qui tr\u00ecnh d\u1eabn t\u1edbi b\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ed3ng \u0111\u00f3 ch\u1ee9 KH\u00d4NG tr\u00ean con ng\u01b0\u1eddi. Th\u1ec9nh tho\u1ea3ng, h\u1ecd n\u00ean tho\u1ea3 hi\u1ec7p, \u0111i\u1ec1u c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 \u00edt nh\u1ea5t m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u1eeb b\u1ecf c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u00e1p l\u1ea1i. Ch\u1eb3ng h\u1ea1n, b\u1ea1n t\u1eeb b\u1ecf \u00fd ki\u1ebfn c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n v\u00e0 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn quan \u0111i\u1ec3m c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c \u0111\u1ec3 cho c\u1ea3 hai b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c h\u01b0\u1edbng t\u1edbi m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch chung. \u0110i\u1ec1u quan tr\u1ecdng l\u00e0 nh\u1eadn ra r\u1eb1ng \u0111\u00e2y KH\u00d4NG ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 v\u1ec1 \u0111\u00fang hay sai M\u00c0 v\u1ec1 hi\u1ec3u bi\u1ebft v\u00e0 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn. B\u1ea1n hi\u1ec3u quan \u0111i\u1ec3m c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia v\u00e0 s\u1eb5n l\u00f2ng ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn n\u00f3 b\u1eb1ng vi\u1ec7c t\u1eeb b\u1ecf quan \u0111i\u1ec3m c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. \u0110i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n sai hay b\u1ea1n y\u1ebfu. Ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i, n\u00f3 c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n mu\u1ed1n \u0111\u1ea1t t\u1edbi c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 l\u1edbn h\u01a1n quan \u0111i\u1ec3m ri\u00eang c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. H\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng n\u00e0y y\u00eau c\u1ea7u nhi\u1ec1u d\u0169ng c\u1ea3m v\u00e0 ch\u00edn ch\u1eafn v\u00e0 l\u00e0 s\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh t\u00edch c\u1ef1c c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi. N\u00f3 c\u1ea7n tr\u00ed hu\u1ec7 l\u1edbn \u0111\u1ec3 l\u1eafng nghe v\u1ecb th\u1ebf \u0111\u1ed1i l\u1eadp c\u1ee7a ai \u0111\u00f3 v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 kh\u00e1ch quan n\u00f3 m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 thi\u00ean v\u1ecb c\u00e1 th\u1ec3. Ch\u1eb3ng h\u1ea1n, trong d\u1ef1 \u00e1n ph\u1ea7n m\u1ec1m, c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n m\u1ed9t gi\u1ea3i ph\u00e1p cho m\u1ed9t v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 nh\u01b0ng b\u1ea1n s\u1eb5n l\u00f2ng ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn gi\u1ea3i ph\u00e1p c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00e0m cho t\u1ed5 ti\u1ebfn t\u1edbi thay v\u00ec ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c tranh c\u00e3i v\u1ec1 gi\u1ea3i ph\u00e1p n\u00e0o l\u00e0 t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n. Tho\u1ea3 hi\u1ec7p l\u00e0 c\u00e1ch t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ec3 ho\u00e0 thu\u1eadn v\u00e0 c\u1ea3i ti\u1ebfn m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7. B\u1eb1ng vi\u1ec7c gi\u1eef cho m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch d\u1ef1 \u00e1n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u1eadp trung thay v\u00ec gi\u1eef \u00fd ki\u1ebfn ri\u00eang c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n, b\u1ea1n gi\u1eef cho s\u1ef1 h\u00e0i ho\u00e0 b\u00ean trong t\u1ed5 v\u00e0 l\u00e0 th\u00e0nh vi\u00ean t\u1ed5 t\u1ed1t. R\u1ea5t th\u01b0\u1eddng l\u00e0 c\u00e1c th\u00e0nh vi\u00ean t\u1ed5 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ed3ng \u00fd v\u1ec1 c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 nh\u1ecf b\u00e9 r\u1ed3i th\u1ea5y b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n h\u1ecd tranh c\u00e3i \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u01b0a t\u1edbi v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 c\u00e3i l\u1ed9n l\u1edbn h\u01a1n v\u00e0 nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n v\u00e0 ph\u00ed th\u1eddi gian. T\u1ed5 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c xung \u0111\u1ed9t ri\u00eang c\u1ee7a n\u00f3 l\u00e0 t\u1ed5 t\u1ed1t m\u00e0 s\u1ebd \u0111\u1ea1t t\u1edbi nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u l\u1edbn lao.<\/p>\n

Nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi tin r\u1eb1ng xung \u0111\u1ed9t n\u1ed9i b\u1ed9 l\u00e0 kh\u00f3 gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft b\u1edfi v\u00ec n\u00f3 x\u1ea3y ra b\u00ean trong m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi. Tuy nhi\u00ean, n\u00f3 l\u00e0 d\u1ec5 h\u01a1n b\u1ea1n t\u01b0\u1edfng. Trong t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng n\u00e0y ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y b\u1ecb c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng b\u1edfi hai \u0111i\u1ec1u v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft ch\u1ecdn c\u00e1i n\u00e0o. B\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean l\u00e0 thi\u1ebft l\u1eadp \u01b0u ti\u00ean b\u1eb1ng vi\u1ec7c x\u00e1c \u0111\u1ecbnh c\u00e1i n\u00e0o l\u00e0 quan tr\u1ecdng v\u00e0 c\u1ea5p thi\u1ebft. B\u01b0\u1edbc th\u1ee9 hai l\u00e0 li\u1ec7t k\u00ea ra m\u1ecdi gi\u1ea3i ph\u00e1p v\u00e0 k\u1ecbch b\u1ea3n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u00f3. B\u01b0\u1edbc th\u1ee9 ba l\u00e0 gi\u1eef c\u00e2n b\u1eb1ng danh s\u00e1ch n\u00e0y b\u1eb1ng vi\u1ec7c h\u1ecfi \u00fd ki\u1ebfn th\u1ee9 hai \u0111\u1ec3 tr\u00e1nh thi\u00ean v\u1ecb c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi l\u1ef1a ra gi\u1ea3i ph\u00e1p t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t. Th\u1ec9nh tho\u1ea3ng xung \u0111\u1ed9t n\u1ed9i b\u1ed9 b\u1ecb g\u00e2y ra b\u1edfi quan ni\u1ec7m sai v\u00e0 thi\u00ean v\u1ecb c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n thay v\u00ec s\u1ef1 ki\u1ec7n.<\/p>\n

V\u00e0i th\u00e1ng tr\u01b0\u1edbc, m\u1ed9t sinh vi\u00ean trong l\u1edbp c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1ee3t k\u00ec thi. Anh ta th\u00fa nh\u1eadn r\u1eb1ng anh ta b\u1ecb c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng b\u1edfi v\u00ec anh ta \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft c\u00e1ch ph\u00e2n chia th\u1eddi gian gi\u1eefa h\u1ecdc \u0111\u1ec3 thi v\u00e0 v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n g\u00e1i c\u1ee7a anh ta. Anh ta s\u1ee3 n\u1ebfu anh ta h\u1ecdc qu\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u, c\u00f4 \u1ea5y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tr\u00e1ch anh ta ph\u1edbt l\u1edd c\u00f4 \u1ea5y. V\u1edbi anh ta c\u1ea3 h\u1ecdc v\u00e0 m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 \u0111\u1ec1u quan tr\u1ecdng ngang nhau cho n\u00ean anh ta kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 \u01b0u ti\u00ean ho\u00e1 gi\u1ea3i ph\u00e1p \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c. T\u00f4i b\u1ea3o anh ta r\u1eb1ng gi\u1ea3i ph\u00e1p t\u1ed1t kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 c\u00f3 c\u00e1i n\u00e0y hay c\u00e1i kia m\u00e0 ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 c\u1ea3 hai. T\u00f4i g\u1ee3i \u00fd r\u1eb1ng anh ta th\u1ea3o lu\u1eadn \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 v\u1edbi c\u00f4 b\u1ea1n g\u00e1i \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f3 \u00fd ki\u1ebfn th\u1ee9 hai nh\u01b0ng anh ta ng\u1ea7n ng\u1ea1i: \u201cEm kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c, n\u1ebfu em b\u1ea3o c\u00f4 \u1ea5y \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3, c\u00f4 \u1ea5y s\u1ebd ph\u00e1t \u0111i\u00ean.\u201d T\u00f4i gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch r\u1eb1ng xung \u0111\u1ed9t c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 kh\u00f4ng t\u1edbi t\u1eeb c\u00f4 \u1ea5y nh\u01b0ng t\u1eeb t\u00e2m tr\u00ed anh ta v\u00e0 \u00fd \u200eki\u1ebfn c\u1ee7a anh v\u1ec1 c\u00f4 \u1ea5y. V\u00ec anh ta l\u00e0 sinh vi\u00ean gi\u1ecfi, t\u00f4i s\u1eb5n l\u00f2ng cho anh ta c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i th\u1ee9 hai \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00e0m l\u1ea1i b\u00e0i thi sau v\u00e0i tu\u1ea7n. Anh ta \u0111\u1ed3ng \u00fd th\u1ea3o lu\u1eadn \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 v\u1edbi c\u00f4 b\u1ea1n g\u00e1i. V\u1edbi s\u1ef1 ng\u1ea1c nhi\u00ean c\u1ee7a anh ta, c\u00f4 g\u00e1i kh\u00f4ng gi\u1eadn g\u00ec. C\u00f4 \u1ea5y n\u00f3i: \u201cEm th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng l\u00e0 anh c\u00f3 \u00fd ki\u1ebfn sai v\u1ec1 em. L\u00e0m sao em c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tr\u00e1ch anh v\u00ec h\u1ecdc t\u1eadp v\u1ea5t v\u1ea3? N\u1ebfu ch\u00fang ta mu\u1ed1n x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, ch\u00fang ta ph\u1ea3i h\u1ecdc t\u1ed1t \u1edf tr\u01b0\u1eddng. Anh ngh\u0129 em l\u00e0 lo\u1ea1i con g\u00e1i g\u00ec? Em kh\u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n th\u1ea5y anh kh\u1ed5 nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf n\u00e0y. Anh c\u1ea7n c\u00e1m \u01a1n gi\u00e1o s\u01b0 v\u00ec cho anh c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i th\u1ee9 hai.\u201d Xung \u0111\u1ed9t c\u1ee7a anh ta \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft trong m\u1ed9t ph\u00fat v\u00e0 anh ta th\u1eeba nh\u1eadn: \u201c\u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 l\u1ed7i c\u1ee7a em v\u00ec kh\u00f4ng gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch n\u00f3 r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng m\u00e0 gi\u1eef n\u00f3 b\u00ean trong d\u1ef1a tr\u00ean c\u00e1ch nh\u00ecn sai c\u1ee7a em.\u201d<\/p>\n

Gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft xung \u0111\u1ed9t l\u00e0 k\u0129 n\u0103ng quan tr\u1ecdng nh\u01b0ng n\u00f3 y\u00eau c\u1ea7u nhi\u1ec1u th\u1eddi gian \u0111\u1ec3 ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n. Th\u1ec9nh tho\u1ea3ng, c\u1ea7n hi\u1ec3u r\u1eb1ng r\u1eb1ng g\u1ed1c r\u1ec5 c\u1ee7a xung \u0111\u1ed9t c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0 l\u1ed7i c\u1ee7a ai \u0111\u00f3 m\u00e0 l\u00e0 c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. Ch\u00ednh b\u1ea3n ng\u00e3 c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n, quan \u0111i\u1ec3m c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n v\u00e0 quan ni\u1ec7m sai c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n g\u00e2y ra xung \u0111\u1ed9t. V\u00ec ph\u00f2ng ng\u1eeba l\u00e0 t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n ch\u1eefa tr\u1ecb, b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u1ea7n d\u1ef1 \u0111o\u00e1n b\u1ea5t k\u00ec xung \u0111\u1ed9t n\u00e0o c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 x\u1ea3y ra v\u00e0 c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng ng\u0103n ng\u1eeba n\u00f3 thay v\u00ec \u0111\u1ec3 cho n\u00f3 x\u1ea3y ra v\u00e0 c\u1ed1 gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft n\u00f3. Gi\u1ea3i ph\u00e1p t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 bao gi\u1edd c\u0169ng v\u1eabn c\u00f2n b\u00ecnh t\u0129nh trong m\u1ecdi t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng v\u00e0 th\u1eed l\u1eafng nghe ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. B\u1eb1ng vi\u1ec7c h\u1ecdc gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft xung \u0111\u1ed9t, b\u1ea1n c\u0169ng th\u1ef1c h\u00e0nh k\u0129 n\u0103ng trao \u0111\u1ed5i v\u00e0 k\u0129 n\u0103ng l\u1eafng nghe n\u1eefa.<\/p>\n

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Soft skills part 4<\/p>\n

Conflict resolution is an important soft-skill that everybody should learn. Whether you are still in school or already working, conflict can happen and if you cannot resolve it, you will experience stress that can lead to a lot of problems later. There are two types of conflict: External conflict happens between you and others. For example, you do not agree on something with a friend, two of you argue and you are angry. Internal conflict happens within a person. For example, you want to spend more time to study but by doing that you cannot spend time with your girl friend. This situation creates an internal conflict within yourself and makes you very unhappy. The cause of external conflict is the view that you are right and the other is wrong and you blame other for not agreeing with you. The cause of internal conflict is you want both things but do not know how to solve it so you blame yourself.<\/p>\n

Resolving conflict requires you to control your emotions and do not react to it by arguing, screaming as it makes the matter worst. I often advise students when conflict happens they must avoid any confrontation by learning to control their emotion. They should say: \u201cI need time to think about it so let us discuss the next time we meet.\u201d or \u201cLet us meet tomorrow to continue since I have another meeting that I must go to.\u201d By avoid reacting and expressing emotion, they have more time to think about the conflict and be able to resolve it.<\/p>\n

Most external conflicts start with differences in opinion, goal or view. Sometime it can cause by different in belief and value. The best way to resolve it is to understand these differences and try to get to a mutual agreement or compromise. To do that you must put aside your emotion, your opinion and willing to listen to other\u2019s view without personal feeling or bias. This is not easy but if at least one person remains calm then the conflict can be avoided.<\/p>\n

Conflict resolution requires you to practice your listening skill and communication skill. By carefully listen to the other person without bias; you may understand their view better. By clearly explain your view in a calm manner; they may understand you better too. By discuss the differences in calm and un-emotional, both sides may come up with a common understanding or \u201cMiddle ground\u201d and continue to work toward a common goal. I often advise students to focus on \u201cFix the process, not the people.\u201d If you do not agree with someone, both should work on the process that lead to the disagreement NOT the people. Sometime, they should compromise, which means at least one person giving up something to get something in return. For example, you give up your opinion and accept the other person\u2019s view so both of you can work toward a common goal. It is important to recognize that this is NOT about right or wrong BUT about understand and acceptance. You understand the other person\u2019s view and willing to accept it by give up your view. It does not mean you are wrong or you are weak. On the contrary, it means that you want to achieve something bigger than your own view. This act requires a lot of courage and maturity and is a positive strength of a person. It takes a great wisdom to listen to someone\u2019s opposite position and objectively evaluate it without personal bias. For example, in software project, there are more than one solution to a problem but you are willing to accept another person\u2019s solution to get the team moving forward rather than continue to argue on which solution is better. Compromise is the best way to get along and improve relationship. By keeping the project goal in focus rather than your own opinion, you keep the harmony within the team and are a good team member. Too often team members do not agree on something small then find themselves arguing which lead to larger and more controversial issues and wasting time. A team that can solve its own conflict is a great team that will achieve great things.<\/p>\n

Many people believe that internal conflict is difficult to solve because it happens within a person. However, it is easier than you thought. In this situation the person is stressed by two things and do not know which one to choose. The first step is to set priority by determine which one is important and urgent. The second step is to list all possible solutions and scenarios. The third step is to balance this list by ask for second opinion to avoid personal bias before select the best solution. Sometime internal conflict is caused by misconception and personal bias rather than the fact.<\/p>\n

Few months ago, a student in my class failed an exam. He admitted that he was stressed because he did not know how to divide the time between study for the exam and with his girl friend. He afraid if he studies too much, she could blame him for ignoring her. To him both study and relationship were equally important so he could not prioritize a solution. I told him that good solution did not have to be one or the other but can be both. I suggested that he discuss it with his girl friend to get a second opinion but he hesitated: \u201cI cannot do that, if I told her that, she will be mad.\u201d I explained that the conflict may not come from her but from his mind and his opinion of her. Since he was a good student, I was willing to give him a second chance to retake the exam few weeks later. He agreed to discuss it with his girl friend. To his surprise, the girl was not angry. She said: \u201cI am disappointed that you have a wrong opinion of me. How could I blame you for study hard? If we want to build our future, we must do well in school. What kind of girl do you think I am? I would not want to see you suffer like this. You need to thank the Professor for giving you a second chance.\u201d His conflict was solved in a minute and he admitted: \u201cIt was my fault for not explain it clearly but keep it inside based on my wrong view.\u201d<\/p>\n

Resolving conflict is an important skill but it requires a lot of time to develop. Sometime, it is necessary to understand that the root of the conflict may not be someone\u2019s fault but you. It is your own ego, your view and your own misconception that cause the conflict. Since prevention is better than treatment, you may need to predict any possible conflict that could happen and try to prevent it rather than let it happen and try to solve it. The best solution is always remain calm in any situation and tries to listen to other. By learning to resolve conflict, you also practice your communication skills and listening skill too.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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